Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution For Women

Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution For Women

by Susan Edelman

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How to Get Modern Dating to Work for Your Love Life
Today's dating culture is a minefield. With tricky dos and don'ts and endless conflicting strategies, women are more confused than ever. You could be hurting yourself and not even know it, but psychiatrist Susan L. Edelman says:

It's not your fault.

Thirty years of listening to the deepest secrets of patients has allowed Dr. Edelman to unlock the mystery of why women don't get what they want from men. She says dating doesn't have to be filled with angst and disappointment anymore.

It's time to change the game.

Dr. Edelman will give you the tools to date on your own terms, actually enjoy the process, and find happiness. Yes, all that is possible with Dr. Edelman's transformative method.

Join the revolution. Be your own Brand of Sexy.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781942343202
Publisher: Options Press
Publication date: 02/14/2018
Series: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy , #1
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 1,015,145
File size: 441 KB

About the Author

Hi! I'm Dr. Susan Edelman. I'm a psychiatrist and an Adjunct Clinical Associate Professor at Stanford. Over the last 30 years of private practice, I've realized a dangerous trend. Despite advances, women across generations still struggle with having a voice and standing up for themselves. We think it's getting better, but it's not. That same struggle is why they don't get what they want from men. It's painful, and in many cases, it stops them from getting what they want out of life. My patients deserve better--and this is not just a problem for my wonderful patients. It's global, and we need a new revolution to create change. That's why I wrote this book and created a lot of free content for you. I want to support the women who will never walk through my office door yet need a helping hand. My book has won 14 awards, and has been called "...a must have book for all women dating or looking to date." Please visit me at for a lot more information. Join the Revolution! Be your own Brand of Sexy.

Table of Contents

Preface xv

Acknowledgements xvii

Disclaimer xxi

1 Why We Need a New Sexual Revolution: You Always Have a Choice 1

Wht Do you Think?

Five Guidelines to Being Your Own Brand of Sexy

Why Is It Valuable to Be Your Own Brand of Sexy?

Owning Your Options

What Went Wrong?

Why We Need a New Sexual Revolution

Learning to Be Your Own Brand of sexy

The How-Tos of the New Sexual Revolution-Being Your Own Brand of Sexy and Sisterhood


2 Media and Peer Pressure Solutions Might Not Be Right for you 21

Explosive Changes: The Old Revolutions

Sex sells

Something Gained, Something Lost

The Rise of the Hookup Culture and the Demise of Romance-The Confusion of Casual Sex and How Slow Can Be Sexy

Men Are Struggling Too

They Tyranny of Beauty and the Power of Sisterhood

Teenage Sexuality: The Powder Keg

Somewhere in the Middle

Is Protecting Your Heart Passé?

So What Now?

3 Know Where You're Going 51

Is More Better?

Herd Mentality

Sex Is All Around

What's Girl Supposed to Do?


What do you Want?

At-Home Exercises: What Would you Do?

What Do You Think?

l4 Consider How We're "Built" 67

Don't Believe Everything You Read

Are We From Different Planets?

What Do Women Want?

Chemical Attraction

Casual Sex

Humanity Revisited

What Do You Want…and Are You Built for What You Want?

The Bottom Line

5 Protect Your Heart: Slow Can Be Sexy 87

Are Rules Meant to Be Broken?

Drawing a Line Requires Finding One

Reality or Delusion?

Bringing Sir Galahad Back from the Dead?

Expect Respect

Risky Business

Protecting Ourselves

6 Emotional Hygiene: Your Voice Matter 105

How Do You Feel? Getting in Touch With Your Emotions

Mind Games


More Than a Feeling: Intuition

Can You Trust Your Instincts?

Looking for Patterns

Influence: Stand Up for Yourself

What Are We So Afraid of? Conflict, Rejection, and Anger-Oh, My!

Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself

Inner Beauty

"To Thine Own Self Be True"

7 Plan Your Strategy: If a Guy Isn't Respecting Your Voice, Move ON 133

Single Woman's 12-Piece Dating Toolbox

Using Your Toolbox: Making These Strategies Work for You

8 Script Your New Game: A Dating Quiz 165

Quiz Results Review

9 When Self-Help Books Aren't Enough 117


Shame City

Loss Planet

When Self-Help Books Aren't Enough for You

10 Your Next Chapter 187

How Far We've Come

Take the First Step

Communication is Everything

Next Steps

Figure Out What Works for You

Try It Out

Reward Yourself Again

A New Sexual Revolution

Five Guidelines to Being Your Own Brand of Sexy

Sisterhood Is Powerful

You Say You Want a Revolution

A New Appreciation for Our Differences

Is It OK to Look Sexy?

Looking Good and Doing Good

Confidence Is Sexy-Self-Knowledge Is Power

Moving Forward

References 209

Appendix A Related Books and Articles 223

Index 227

What People are Saying About This

Hans Steiner

"Navigating the gender divide has never been easy, but in some ways, it has even become more complicated following the Feminist Revolution of the past few decades. In my own psychiatric practice, I hear about very similar complaints and confusions which Dr. Edelman, a seasoned practitioner, scholar and valued colleague, describes in her book. Maintaining a strong individually based perspective, while helping the reader ­ and presumably her patients ­ thoughtfully navigate between the extremes of idiosyncrasy and pressure packed prescriptive norms, Dr. Edelman shows the reader how to craft a solution which fits their own personal needs without sacrificing respectable standards of a satisfying partnership. It is with great pleasure and deep respect that I see this manuscript reach its final stages of publication. I think it will rapidly become a much needed classic in its own right."

Ellen Haller

If you want to put an end to heartbreak and finally find the man for you, read this groundbreaking book!

Mali Mann

This is an important book. It reveals sociology and psychological insights for young women to explore who they are and make romantic decisions wisely. Additionally, Dr. Edelman’s call for a return to sisterhood is compelling. Women will learn much from her wisdom.

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