Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People

Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People

by Bob Goff

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New York Times Bestseller!

What happens when we give away love like we're made of it?

In his entertaining and inspiring follow-up to the New York Times bestselling phenomenon Love Does, Bob Goff takes readers on a journey into the secret of living without fear, constraint, or worry. The path toward the liberated existence we all long for is found in a truth as simple to say as it is hard to do: love people, even the difficult ones, without distinction and without limits.

Driven by Bob’s trademark storytelling, Everybody, Always reveals the lessons Bob learned—often the hard way—about what it means to love without inhibition, insecurity, or restriction. From finding the right friends to discovering the upside of failure, Everybody, Always points the way to embodying love by doing the unexpected, the intimidating, the seemingly impossible. Whether losing his shoes while skydiving solo or befriending a Ugandan witch doctor, Bob steps into life with a no-limits embrace of others that is as infectious as it is extraordinarily ordinary. Everybody, Always reveals how we can do the same.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780718078133
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 04/17/2018
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 10,055
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.68(d)

About the Author

Bob Goff is the founder of Love Does, a nonprofit organization that operates schools and pursues justice for children in conflict areas such as Uganda, Somalia, Afghanistan, Nepal, and India. Bob is a lawyer and serves as the honorary consul for the Republic of Uganda to the United States. He is an adjunct professor at Pepperdine Law School and Point Loma Nazarene University and lives in San Diego with Sweet Maria, their kids, and extended family.

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CHAPTER 1

Creepy People

We don't need to be who we used to be; God sees who we're becoming — and we're becoming love.

My friends and I finished what we were doing at the restaurant and took the windowless van back to the airport.

We pulled into the rental lot looking a little windblown, and the attendant stared at us with a puzzled expression. "It looked like this when we got it," I told him nonchalantly. Walking away, I tossed the keys to him. I felt like the guy in the movies when he throws a match over his shoulder and the car explodes behind him. Pro tip: If you do throw the match, make sure you don't turn around and look when it blows up. It wrecks the vibe.

I was disappointed everything was stolen, but I figured it would all work out. What I didn't realize was how hard it would be to get back on an airplane to fly home with no identification. I got to the front of the security line, and the guy with a badge asked for my ticket and ID. I reached in my pockets and turned them inside out. I had nothing. I shrugged my shoulders pathetically and said, "Man, it all got stolen. My luggage, my wallet, everything." I felt like Jason Bourne.

The TSA guy wasn't very sympathetic. I could understand. He was just doing his job. He asked if there was any way I could prove who I was. I shook my head, then suddenly remembered — I had written a book a while ago. We Googled it, but I forgot the cover only had balloons on it. (I made a mental note to put a huge photo of myself on the cover of this book just in case it happens again, but I bailed on the idea when I saw what my face looked like on a book cover.)

All of this raised a question I've been thinking about a lot lately. How do we prove who we are? I don't mean who our driver's licenses say we are or what our careers suggest about who we are or who we tell other people we are or who they tell us we are. Jesus talked to His friends a lot about how we should identify ourselves. He said it wouldn't be what we said we believed or all the good we hoped to do someday. Nope, He said we would identify ourselves simply by how we loved people. It's tempting to think there is more to it, but there's not. Love isn't something we fall into; love is someone we become.

It's easy to love kind, lovely, humble people. I mean, who wouldn't? These are the ones I've spent much of my life loving. Loving the people who are easy to love made me feel like I was really good at it. Because the people I loved were kind and wonderful, they made sure they told me what a great job I was doing loving them. What I've come to realize, though, is that I was avoiding the people I didn't understand and the ones who lived differently than me. Here's why: some of them creeped me out. Sure, I was polite to them, but sadly, I've spent my whole life avoiding the people Jesus spent His whole life engaging. God's idea isn't that we would just give and receive love but that we could actually become love. People who are becoming love see the beauty in others even when their off-putting behavior makes for a pretty weird mask. What Jesus told His friends can be summed up in this way: He wants us to love everybody, always — and start with the people who creep us out. The truth is, we probably creep them out as much as they do us.

Are there people you should give a wide berth to? You bet. There are people in my life and yours who are unsafe, toxic, and delight in sowing discord wherever they go. God gave us discernment, and we should use it as we live our lives. He's also given us love and understanding and kindness and the ability to forgive, which have power we often leave untapped. There's a difference between good judgment and living in judgment. The trick is to use lots of the first and to go a little lighter on the second.

What I'm learning about love is that we have to tackle a good amount of fear to love people who are difficult. Oftentimes, when I encounter someone who makes me feel afraid, I instantly put up barriers. I put them up with my big words and opinions. I construct them to protect myself. Barriers make me feel right, and that makes me feel safe. I think this is something we all do to some degree, and there's no shame in that. Except it's not what Jesus did. He showed us what it means to become love when He spent His last meal with a man who He knew would betray Him and then willingly died a criminal's death.

We make loving people a lot more complicated than Jesus did. Every time I try to protect myself by telling somebody about one of my opinions, God whispers to me and asks about my heart. Why are you so afraid? Who are you trying to impress? Am I really so insecure that I surround myself only with people who agree with me? When people are flat wrong, why do I appoint myself the sheriff to straighten them out? Burning down others' opinions doesn't make us right. It makes us arsonists.

God's endgame has always been the same. He wants our hearts to be His. He wants us to love the people near us and love the people we've kept far away. To do this, He wants us to live without fear. We don't need to use our opinions to mask our insecurities anymore. Instead, God wants us to grow love in our hearts and then cultivate it by the acre in the world. We'll become in our lives what we do with our love. Those who are becoming love don't throw people off roofs; they lower people through them instead.

* * *

In high school, someone asked me if I had "met Jesus." I thought he was kidding. "Of course not," I answered literally. I still haven't. I don't have any friends who have either. From what I've read, very few people on this side of heaven have actually ever met God. Adam and Eve did. Joseph and Mary did too. Moses did on the top of a mountain. Some shepherds and a few wise men make the list. A boatful of fishermen, a couple of thieves on a hill. There were plenty of others, but not as many as you might think.

By contrast, there were a lot of people who watched Jesus from a distance. He walked their streets and went to their parties. He stood before leaders, and a few even saw Him raised up on a cross. I suppose they could say they met Him, but at best, they probably just got a glimpse of Him. For a long time, I saw Jesus from a distance and thought we'd met. It still happens to me every time I avoid people God made in His own image just because I don't understand them. My fear of them leaves me only with glimpses of Jesus. What I've come to realize is if I really want to "meet Jesus," then I have to get a lot closer to the people He created. All of them, not just some of them.

God could have made it otherwise, of course, and everyone could have actually met Jesus. He could have appeared in person throughout history in all maternity wards and huts and fields where children are born. He could have shown up at Super Bowl games and Taylor Swift concerts and at elementary school plays and the Rose Parade. By not doing this, I don't think He's avoiding us. I think His plan all along has been for us to meet the people He made and feel like we just met Him.

In this sense, I've met God almost every day. Certainly, God wants us to learn about Him by reading the letters and stories collected in the Bible, but He also wants us to meet Him by loving the people who are difficult to get along with. If I'm only willing to love the people who are nice to me, the ones who see things the way I do, and avoid all the rest, it's like reading every other page of the Bible and thinking I know what it says.

Jesus told His friends if they wanted to be like Him, they needed to love their neighbors and they needed to love difficult people. This sounds so familiar that I'm tempted to just agree with Jesus and move on, but Jesus doesn't want us merely to agree with Him. In fact, I can't think of a single time He gathered His friends around Him and said, "Guys, I just want you to agree with Me." He wants us to do what He said, and He said He wants us to love everybody, always.

Jesus said to love our enemies. I thought I'd get off easy because I don't have any real "enemies." I mean, I'm not mad at North Korea or Russia or China. And I don't think they're mad at me. After all, I wrote a book and put balloons on the cover. Who could be mad at that guy? I think Jesus meant something different when He said "enemies." He meant we should love the people we don't understand. The ones we disagree with. The ones who are flat wrong about more than a couple of things. I have plenty of those people in my life, and my bet is you do too. In fact, I might be one of those people sometimes.

I think God allows all of us to go missing a time or two. He doesn't lose us like I did my computer when my van was broken into, but He lets us get lost for a while if it's what we really want. When we do, He doesn't pout or withhold His love the way I probably would if someone completely ignored me or walked away from me. Instead, He pursues us in love. He's not trying to find us; He always knows where we are. Rather, He goes with us as we find ourselves again. In this way, we have both a little sheep and some shepherd in us too. God isn't constantly telling us what to do as we search for ourselves either. He gently reminds us who we are. He continues to rewrite our lives the way I rewrote my book — in beautiful and unexpected ways, knowing the next version of us will usually be better than the previous one.

* * *

As a lawyer, I win arguments for a living, but something has changed within me. I want to be Jesus. I've concluded we can be correct and not right. Know what I mean? I do this most often when I have the right words and the wrong heart. Sadly, whenever I make my opinions more important than the difficult people God made, I turn the wine back into water. I'm trying to resist the bait that darkness offers me every day to trade kindness for rightness. These are not mutually exclusive ideas, of course, but there's a big difference between being kind and being right. Pick the most controversial social issue of the day, and you'll find passionate voices on all sides. The sad fact is, many of us have lost our way trying to help people find theirs. Arguments won't change people. Simply giving away kindness won't either. Only Jesus has the power to change people, and it will be harder for them to see Jesus if their view of Him is blocked by our big opinions.

I used to think we'd be known for whom we hung around, the groups or social issues we identified with, or the faith tradition we were familiar with. Now I think while we might be known for our opinions, we'll be remembered for our love. What I've learned following Jesus is we only really find our identities by engaging the people we've been avoiding. Jesus wrapped up this concept in three simple and seemingly impossible ideas for us to follow: love Him, love your neighbor, and love your enemies.

I want to love God more fully. I really do. Who wouldn't? I want to love my neighbors too. Why not? I live next door to some of them. Overall, they are kind of like me. But love my enemies? Sure, I'll tolerate them for a while. I might even be nice to them for a couple of minutes. But love them? Yikes.

In the simplest terms, Jesus came to earth and declared He would turn God's enemies into His friends. He didn't do it with twenty-dollar words or lectures or by waving a bony finger at people who had made mistakes. He convinces us with love, and He does it without fear or shame. He doesn't raise His voice and shout over the noise in our lives. He lets the power of love do all the talking for Him. We have the same shot in other people's lives every day.

Loving each other is what we were meant to do and how we were made to roll. It's not where we start when we begin following Jesus; it's the beautiful path we travel the rest of our lives. Will it be messy and ambiguous and uncomfortable when we love people the way Jesus said to love them? You bet it will. Will we be misunderstood? Constantly. But extravagant love often means coloring outside the lines and going beyond the norms. Loving the neighbors we don't understand takes work and humility and patience and guts. It means leaving the security of our easy relationships to engage in some tremendously awkward ones.

Find a way to love difficult people more, and you'll be living the life Jesus talked about. Go find someone you've been avoiding and give away extravagant love to them. You'll learn more about God, your neighbor, your enemies, and your faith. Find someone you think is wrong, someone you disagree with, someone who isn't like you at all, and decide to love that person the way you want Jesus to love you.

We need to love everybody, always.

Jesus never said doing these things would be easy. He just said it would work.

CHAPTER 2

Meeting Carol

God doesn't just give us promises; He gives us each other.

Shortly after Sweet Maria and I got married, we bought our first home. We got it at a foreclosure sale. It was more my idea than hers. Walking through the house after we bought it was the closest thing I've had to a near-death experience. Sweet Maria looked at me with her hands in her pockets and nodded in disbelief as we walked from room to room. Unconvincingly and with a hint of uncharacteristic sarcasm, she looked inside each of the ramshackle rooms and said, "Nice" from time to time as she shook her head in absolute denial. Translated, that meant, "We're still married, but just barely."

The house was in terrible shape. It was so nasty, the mice reported us. Rather than move in, we lived in a motor home in the driveway while we made it habitable. After waking up with a steering wheel and a parking brake in our bedroom for a year, we decided we'd take a step down in our lifestyle and move from the car to the house. There was a heater, but it didn't work. There was a bathroom, but it didn't work either. The house came with twenty feral cats that were apparently afraid of rodents but not afraid to shed. With a spinning wheel and enough allergy medicine, I could have made a hundred really gross sweaters with all the cat hair we collected.

On the day of the move, I picked up Sweet Maria and carried her across the threshold. As I did, we both saw something move in the corner of the living room but pretended we didn't. This house wasn't much, but it was ours.

We fixed up the house and swapped it for another house and then another and then another. During the first ten years we were married, we moved six times. It was like being in the witness protection program, but we hadn't done anything wrong. After many moves and remodels, we were exhausted. One day after work, I drove home to the wrong house and walked in the front door. It was more than a little weird for a couple of minutes.

A short time later, I was at breakfast with a friend and overheard a guy in the next booth say he was planning on selling his house. I eavesdropped a little more on their conversation and learned his house was at the top of a cliff, right above my favorite surfing spot in Point Loma called Garbage Beach. Who wouldn't want a house there, right?

I slid into the booth next to the guy and told him I wanted his house. We worked out all the details over waffles. I made a really lame move and threw in our china to seal the deal. Sweet Maria's going to love it, I thought as I drove home from the restaurant, having just traded the house she had poured her heart into for years for a house at a place called Garbage. I blindfolded Sweet Maria and drove her to our new home. I did the big reveal when we got there. I pointed to my surf spot and then back toward the house a couple of times. I asked if she could believe what a smart guy I was.

She started quietly crying and told me in a very kind but direct voice that every marriage gets one of these kinds of mistakes. I had just used mine up. We moved in, and she did the same thing she does in the lives of people around her. She took the garbage I brought and transformed it into a life and a home for our young family. Our children had arrived two years apart up until that point. There was a much larger gap before our last child arrived.

Unfortunately, it wouldn't be my last mistake. A short time later, we bought another house, this time at a probate court auction. The auction was held at the courthouse, and quite a few people came to bid on the house. I've always had trouble sitting still, and while I was at the auction I pulled on my ear, scratched my chin, and wrinkled my nose. When I was done fidgeting, I guess we'd outbid everyone, so we ended up with the house.

* * *

A few years later, Sweet Maria told me she wanted to move from the house we were living in. There was a long, awkward pause while I mustered up the courage to sheepishly ask, "Can I come?" It's one of the few rules in our marriage — we agreed if Sweet Maria ever decides to leave me, she has to take me with her.

(Continues…)



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Table of Contents

Prologue vii

Chapter 1 Creepy People 1

Chapter 2 Meeting Carol 11

Chapter 3 Love Everybody, Always 19

Chapter 4 The Yellow Truck 29

Chapter 5 Limo Driver 39

Chapter 6 Skydiving 49

Chapter 7 A Day at the Museum 59

Chapter 8 The Pizza Place 69

Chapter 9 From the Lighthouse Window 77

Chapter 10 Three Green Lights 85

Chapter 11 Last One, Best One 95

Chapter 12 Three Minutes at a Time 105

Chapter 13 Karl's Dive 117

Chapter 14 Land the Plane 127

Chapter 15 A Welcome from Walter 141

Chapter 16 What Grace Costs 149

Chapter 17 My Bucket 159

Chapter 18 Croc Drop 169

Chapter 19 Be. Not. Afraid 177

Chapter 20 Witch Doctors and Witness Stands 187

Chapter 21 Randy's Skill 195

Chapter 22 Kabi 201

Chapter 23 Where Do You Want to Go? 207

Chapter 24 Graduation Day 213

Epilogue 221

Acknowledgments 225

About the Author 229

Connect with Bob 230

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Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 44 reviews.
waiting4the2ndstar More than 1 year ago
In Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People, Bob Goff talks about exactly that: the practice of showing Christ-like love to everyone we meet, particularly those we find most difficult. Using anecdotes from his own life experiences as illustrations, Goff reveals simple insights about Jesus, love, faith, and living more like Christ. This is an adorable book with an important, uplifting, and challenging message. I was brought to tears time and again by Goff’s simple message and beautiful stories. This book was a relatively easy read, as almost each chapter was a short story about something and someone in Goff’s life. He uses each of these tales to draw connections to God, treated like lessons learned and insights discovered. While some of these lessons grew repetitive throughout the book, I found that this did not take away from the book’s overall message. Goff’s stories are super engaging; you can tell they are about real people in real situations (although I’m still in awe over how Bob ended up in some of these places! He does lead a truly extraordinary life…). Several of the individual stories stood out to me personally, and I wouldn’t be surprised if other readers have the same experience. There are certain people and places that each of us can relate to, and this book offers up a variety of potential connections. In each tale, everyone is led back to the same central tenet of the work: Christ-like love for all. The man telling all of these stories and sharing these insights sounds positively delightful. Goff’s voice is wonderfully accessible. The book reads as though he’s sat down next to you to share his story. He is at times humorous, at others deadly serious, and the emotion he’s experiencing is carried clearly in the text. I admit that at times I found him leaning toward stock proverbs (things that sound profound, but, when you get right down to it, are pretty basic truths.). These tended to appear in the more repetitive passages of the book. These at times felt cliche and took away from the rest of the chapter. However, as a whole, the style of writing in this book was superb. In Everybody, Always, I found the message to be both simple and necessary. This book isn’t hiding a complicated directive, although the call to action isn’t easy. Goff sticks to his original thesis throughout the entire book: love everybody, always, and it’s as simple as that. This book may find itself shelved near texts of complicated theology, but I think it needs to be distinguished from those. Goff spends more time looking at Christ manifested in humanity than dissecting Bible verses. (Both of these practices are important for spiritual growth, of course. But I was pleased to find that this book fell on the “people” side of this distinction.) This book isn’t an apologetic to the rest of the world, addressing topics on which Christians have opinions and beliefs. Instead, Goff is talking to Christ-followers, challenging them on nearly every page to put aside differences and love the “difficult” people, anyway. This is a voice we as the Church need to hear right now, and I am so happy to see this message entering into the current cultural “fray.”
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A great book to keep encouraging you on your faith journey. A little more Jesus is what the world needs.
iamree More than 1 year ago
Just when one might think there are too many self-help or motivational books on the market, along comes Bob Goof's EVERYBODY ALWAYS. The confetti design on the cover is a good representation of how happy you will feel as you read this book. It may sound strange to use the adjective happy when the book deals with mistakes in life and a wonderful neighbor with cancer, but the simple, everyday stories of people dealing with life and people in a loving way reminds the reader that each of us has a choice: be a mean, crabby, self-righteous person or try to respond with kindness, forgiveness, and a willingness to learn. I enjoyed the laugh-out-loud moments as well as that fact that this book nudged me back on the right path. Seriously good without coming across as too serious - I will buy this book now after my ARC first 5 chapters.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I had read Bob Goff's first book, "Love Does", and was blown away by his writing. He's an amazing story teller that helps you engage your heart in ways, I think, we have always wanted to, but have let fear keep us from loving people the way Jesus did. "Everybody Always", has been heart shifting for me. It's the read I've always needed. If you are having a hard time being LOVE to people -- to yourself, pick up a copy when it becomes available. By both books, actually. I reread and reread, "Love Does" all the time.
Lori Motal More than 1 year ago
I received the first five chapters from the publisher. Already within these beginning chapters, Bob has challenged me to love better and grow as a person. This book is changing my perspective on how I approach the difficult people in my life. I cannot wait to dive deeper into this book.
Anonymous 5 months ago
This book puts all things spiritual in the simplest terms. It was an awesome, life-changing read.
Anonymous 11 months ago
I had previously read the first book in this sort of series, Love Does, but I found myself enjoying this one more. Goff is a very charming storyteller and immediately brings in the reader to the circumstances in which the story takes place. There was a lot of practical theology woven into this book and it was overall just a very interesting read with a lot of good takeaways. I would highly recommend this to Christians looking to expand their idea of the Christian faith. Goff has an often nontraditional view of Christian theology and brings a lot of great insight into the gospel. He has had a multitude of interesting life experiences and the way that he is able to tie those back to theology is incredibly interesting.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Such an incredible book. You'll b laughing one minute and crying the next. Full of humor and simple truths.
Endya Moler More than 1 year ago
“Insightful for longing souls” I am not the type of person to willingly read a book that does not have action and adventure and is purely advice, but I thoroughly enjoyed this one. Bob Goff does an excellent job at making his point: that even the most difficult people deserve love. His purpose was to show that loving everyone is important and he did that through anecdotes and meaningful examples. This book can be read by anyone, the wording is simple to allow all ages to enjoy and understand the meaning and purpose behind it. This book is special because of the many stories that Goff puts in there to make it point clear. The stories add flavor to the book and gives the reader more than a simple point being made. The facts he makes in the book are directly taken from what the Bible says meaning they are completely accurate. It is an interesting book because it gives more than one perspective on loving one another. It held my attention with his interesting stories. Due to its Christian foundation it probably cannot be put into a school but it would be an awesome addition to any library. The subject is easy to relate to because everyone needs to learn how to love everyone, including the ones that we do not want to love. It is hard to wrap your mind around the concept of loving everybody but he does an excellent job of making the ideas simple and easily understood.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I suggest it for anyone looking for clarity of purpose in his or her life.
JulieKMcComas More than 1 year ago
You'll never guess how many copies I purchased! Three copies! I would have bought more, but I think other people started doing the same thing so there weren't anymore at the store. But that is okay! As soon as I read this book I felt like everyone needed to read it. I knew that I wanted my grandma to read it, and I have several friends that I felt would like to read it. I also know how I can be when someone recommends a book to me. I always have good intentions, but half the time I forget the title. So, I decided to just hand people this book. This was my first Bob Goff book. He is such an amazing storyteller. I found myself laughing, and "aww"ing through the whole book. He shares many stories of many adventures he has taken, and by adventures I mean meeting people, teaching people, etc. There is Carol (who might be my favorite), the limo driver, Walter, jails/prison socks, crop drops, crocodiles, and witch doctors. Yes, real witch doctors. I think Bob Goff might have more humdrum days if he didn't have eyes to see those in need and the opportunities to help. He has encouraged and inspired me to try to have eyes to see, and the courage to step up and love Everybody, Always. Loving everybody, always is a hard thing to do. I can think of at least two people off the top of my head that I have a hard time loving. I am working on it. Trying to take a few of the quotes from this book, and apply them to my life. Some Quotes I Liked "I want people to see you and me and feel like they've just met everyone in heaven." Bob Goff Everybody, Always "Loving people means caring without an agenda." Bob Goff Everybody, Always "Grace never seems fair until you need some." Bob Goff Everybody, Always "What a shame it would be if we were waiting for God to say something while He's been waiting on us to do something." Bob Goff Everybody, Always These are just a few of the quotes that I need to put on my mirror and read every day. I accept this challenge to love everybody, always. Do you? Quick bit about the cover. I heard Bob on a podcast last year sometime talking about the dots on the cover of his book. I was amazed to learn that those colorful dots are not just regular dots. Those are fingerprints. Fingerprints of each of the witch doctors in the school at that time. How cool is that?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a must read! I loved his stories throughout the book, teaching us to love others as Jesus does.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Bob takes the things in life that we like to complicate and makes them clear and simple. Love everybody always. Thanks!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Bob continues to challenge us to be lovingly kind to each other. He writes the way he talks; I can hear his voice and see his smile and imagine at what points he would be moving his arms round. Lol! Great read, great message!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Incredible.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
"We don't need to spend as much time as we do telling people what we think about what they're doing We're not the school principals or the bouncers or the sheriffs. In other words, stop it. Loving people doesn't mean we need to control their conduct. Loving people means caring without an agenda."" I enjoyed this book and was disappointed in it at the same time. There were some amazing thoughts, like the quote above, throughout this book. And his philosophy and ideal of loving people the way Jesus did deserves a full 5 stars. His humor is great. His stories are INCREDIBLE. But the book is so very repetitive. He just makes the same point over and over again, amidst these incredible stories and gave me goosebumps and made me think just how interesting and intense this man's life has been. I can only imagine how many story he has that he didn't include in this book. So maybe the repetition isn't a big problem. It's said that people have to hear something at least seven times before they really remember it, right? So maybe the repetition was intentional. But it was just different than I expected. The ending deserves 5 stars as well. If you read nothing else, you could read the first chapter and the last story about the witch doctor. Absolutely incredible. The whole book? I guess I give it 3.5 stars. It was good, and it challenges the average mindset with a lot to think about. I definitely think its worth the read.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A Sad Miss for Me Faith-based nonfiction is typically one of my favorite genres, and after seeing all of the crazy amazing reviews and ratings this book was getting, I knew I had to snag this one up. Not to mention, this book has a super gorgeous and vibrant cover, which always makes for a great bookshelf addition! I have to say, though, this book was a real miss for me, as much as it pains me to admit that. I wanted to love it so much, but I just found myself disconnecting from the author more and more as I progressed further in the book. I do want to try another of Mr. Goff’s books before I completely write him off as one of my potential authors to follow, because I feel like this one just didn’t hit the mark for me, but others might. I know the author surely didn’t mean to present himself in such an off-putting way, but the examples he gave throughout the book of his showing love to others were very hard for a common person to identify with -- from his visits overseas, to his handing out tickets to Disneyland, it was so hard to identify with how he lives life. Was he showcasing what it means to love others, always? -- you bet. I have no doubt that Mr. Goff is a precious soul who consistently wins others over to Christ, and for that I can’t thank him enough, or say enough wonderful things about what his character must be like. For me, though, the chapters were written in such a way that I lost track of the good that Mr. Goff was doing, and instead focused more on how impractical it would be for most people in our society to be able to accomplish such good deeds.
jlo420 More than 1 year ago
Bob Goff's "Everybody Always" was a thought-provoking, inspiring read. I enjoyed the short chapters as this allowed me an opportunity to read the message, then absorb the message, in short bites. Mr. Goff's writing style is simple, which makes this an easy read. The stories were interesting, and I enjoyed the way Mr. Goff was able to spin the stories in to the message. While I found some of the stories a bit tough to read, and maybe a bit hard to believe towards the end, I still believe the message that we all need to "become love" in this crazy world of chaos. I have taken away Mr. Goff's message to "become love" and try to practice this daily. I am grateful I was chosen to win a copy of this book. I only hope I can share and spread this message through my daily interactions with others.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
From time to time I read a book that makes a significant impact on my life. The kind of book that cuts you deep but you can’t stop reading it. It challenges you in your walk and in your heart. Bob Goff has written such a book in Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People published by Thomas Nelson. There is no wonder why this book has hit bestselling list as did his previous book Love Does to which this is a follow-up. Bob Goff is a lawyer, speaker, world changer, and story teller. He uses the art of story to bring across tremendous truths in this book. In his book he says that we should follow the practice of Jesus who just loved everybody always. Yes, we are to love the difficult ones too. He says in his book, “I don’t want to get to heaven and have Jesus tell me my big opinions blocked someone’s view of Him.” Goff sucks you in with story after story. Almost every chapter is a story and some stories are extended over several chapters. Each story has been taken from his life and each one has a tremendous lesson attached to it. He encourages you to view people through the lenses of Jesus. In the end his desire is for the world to see less of us and more of Jesus in our lives. “I want people to meet you and me and feel like they’ve just met everyone in heaven,” says Goff. Probably one of the greatest parts of this book is his challenge for you to love difficult people and he gives practical advice on doing that. We are talking good, solid, advice. I could fill this review with quote after quote from this author. Probably the most powerful story is his last. I found myself in tears reading it. There is a reason why this book is a best seller. His next book will be as well. If you have never read Bob Goff, you need to. His book needs to be your next purchase. You will thank me. Follow this guy on twitter at @bobgoff. You will love his daily wisdom. I received a copy of this book from the publisher in return for an honest review. This was a pleasure.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This was the most interesting non-fiction book I’ve read. I don’t really read non-fiction books to be honest, but I decided to give this book a try! Throughout the book we follow the author, Bob Goff, and stories from his life. This book is full of different emotions, lessons to be learned, different ways to solve situations, death, and more. This book teaches you about how to live with no worry and to live in a world where there is no hate, only love. Reading this book was a true inspiration! This was a very unique book and I loved everything about it! i suggest you give this book a try! i cant wait to read more books by this author after reading this masterpiece. My next read by this author will definitely be, love does.
IoanaN More than 1 year ago
Bob Goff's second book follows the theme of his first: Love. Love everybody, no matter their background, their story, just show love. I have to say that the ways in which he shows love are sometimes extreme and not always applicable to everyone's everyday life. While his enthusiasm is through the roof (he does admit that espresso drinks him to wake up) and the stories he shares are engaging, I don't see how this effervescence can be maintained constantly. The book is made up of twenty something chapters, all following the same pattern: a story told in an amusing way followed by a practical/ devotional-esque aspect for our daily life. It's a standard form and if I remember correctly, it's the same as his first book's. I didn't think it was possible to say the same thing in so many chapters. The idea is simple: love people. I am not sure we needed a new book to tell us that, and it is repetitive after a few chapters. This might be somewhat tiresome to see, but if you read it sporadically, not in one sitting, it works fine. I enjoy this kind of essay writing for when I am short on time to sit and read, but I still get to read a book in the free moments. Someone mentioned the crazy things he gets to do, like buying a house almost on a whim, hopping on a plane to Uganda, flying a plane to the Lodge, or doing other extraordinary things. All these are not what the majority of people get to do on a daily basis. Although they create a sort of social and economic gap between the author and the reader, and I was surprised by this when I read Love Does too, they don't prevent you from putting into practice the main idea: love people the best way you can. Another thing I have to agree on with another reader is that he sure talks a lot about him and his people. I don't know how this could have been presented by mixing the personal stories, the practical aspect, and more Jesus. I think the book does lack more mentioning of Jesus. The book is a nice read, the tone if friendly and engaging, there are some witty parts, and the last few chapters about Charlie are the best in my opinion, so give this a try. For the Christian reader, used to this kind of books, maybe it will not contain much new information, but it's Bob Goff, you kind of want to know what other crazy things he's done. I received a free e-book copy of the book from the publisher via Net Galley. All thoughts expressed here are my own.
bonbonbug More than 1 year ago
Bob Goff is quite a guy! We would all do well to emulate him and accept, support and love on "everybody always," even those we don't feel like loving or seem very loveable. We may be surprised when we learn their stories. His message is quite simple, but tougher to follow: we all need to try to be like Jesus and see Him in everyone we meet. We are here to love and serve our neighbor, not to correct and judge them. Bob teaches us this lesson through the use of stories and anecdotes filled with inspiring characters from his own life and experiences. This is a quick read the first time through, which merits a slower, more thoughtful, contemplative re-read. We need to have no fear of failure and to Be. Not. Afraid!
bonbonbug More than 1 year ago
Bob Goff is quite a guy! We would all do well to emulate him and accept, support and love on "everybody always," even those we don't feel like loving or seem very loveable. We may be surprised when we learn their stories. His message is quite simple, but tougher to follow: we all need to try to be like Jesus and see Him in everyone we meet. We are here to love and serve our neighbor, not to correct and judge them. Bob teaches us this lesson through the use of stories and anecdotes filled with inspiring characters from his own life and experiences. This is a quick read the first time through, which merits a slower, more thoughtful, contemplative re-read. We need to have no fear of failure and to Be. Not. Afraid!
YourDreamComeTrue More than 1 year ago
While I have not read Bob Goff's prior book, Love Does, I can see from others he followed up well with Everything Always. I am not normally one to enjoy "self-help" type of books, but Goff's writing and explanations in his writing certainly made the topic in this book enjoyable. I loved the insight this book provided and it is certainly a book that anyone who likes self-help type books should own and have in their arsenal. This book provides a way to love and have love in a world full of difficult people. The contents of this book provide a great insight into how we should love others in a difficult to-love-world, and love those that are difficult to love. Bob Goff knows how to captivate a reader with his writing and his content.
blestbutstrest More than 1 year ago
Everybody Always extends the theme of Goff’s first book, Love Does. We might ask ourselves how we as Christians should love others. His answer might surprise you (even though Jesus already told us the same thing in the Bible). Sure, we need to read our Bibles and apply what we learn in our lives—that’s how we get to know Jesus. But, according to Goff, “He [Jesus] also wants us to meet Him by loving the people who are difficult to get along with.” I have some people like that in my life, and I confess that I do a better job at avoiding them than loving them. But by avoiding them, I lose out on an opportunity to grow my faith. “The people who creep us out aren’t obstacles to having faith; they’re opportunities to understand our faith.” I get involved in plan making and creating short-term and long-term goals. Sometimes, I accomplish those goals and other times they cripple me. But Goff reminds us that we don’t need to wait for the perfect timing to love people. “Simply put, we can stop waiting for a plan and just go love everybody.” Another truth that punched me in the solar plexus of my brain (sometimes, we need that kind of a jolt)? I don’t need to pick and choose my neighbors. “He made a whole world of neighbors. We call it earth, but god just calls it a really big neighborhood.” The people I smile at, hold doors open for, and meet at the checkout line at the local Safeway—those people belong to my neighborhood. I confess that I don’t know any of them very well. Goff shows us how we can make life-long friends just three minutes at a time. I started this weekend when I finished the book. Lest I give away the whole book, you should probably just go out and buy your own copy. Although, really, it’s just a bunch of stories about Goff’s journey to become love. He tells his stories much better than I can. Suffice it to say, I highlighted half the book so I can go over passages again and again to remind me that even I, a closet legalist, can learn to love everybody always.