This book can forever change how you think about your inner fears. Based on field studies and the author’s own life experience, Fear, Phobias, and Freedom will take you on a fantastic journey of discovering the root of all fear and how it affects every cell in your body.
This book, written from the perspective of the layperson, can help you discover how every thought you have, positive or negative, has a lasting chemical reaction in the body. When we learn how to let go of fear and stress, we can alter the outcome of our health and happiness. We will guide you on a comprehensive journey in understanding the two base ingredients of all fears and phobias.
You will be shown how your fear is used by others to control your daily life. This step-by-step guide is designed to build your understanding of fear and then effective techniques that will give you actual results and put you on the path to true happiness.
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Fear, Phobias and FreedomDiscovering the Key to Living Fearlessly Free
By Dan Brooks
Balboa PressCopyright © 2012 Dan Brooks
All right reserved.
Chapter OneThe Formula for a Successful Life
Sometimes, in our most desperate moments, there are desires that arise that will drive us forward to accomplish everything we ever wanted. The desire must always outweigh our fear which is keeping us from the very thing we want.
It is from this adversity that we gain great knowledge.
Napoleon Hill, author of 'Think And Grow Rich", stated, "That from every Adversity, every heartache, every sorrow there is a seed of equal or greater benefit."
This simple statement IS how we learn and grow or choose not to grow. If we can consciously overcome the subconscious fears we have been programmed with our whole life, then we stand a chance of changing situations before they become great adversities.
It wasn't until I read the book by Napoleon Hill called the "Law Of Success" that I began to understand the Scepters of Fear. I had been struggling with my own challenges around spirituality, money and relationships and miraculously the answers were revealed to me through the understanding of the basic fears that exist in most people.
The answer was in the subconscious programs that were running within us. Changing these programs can be the difficult part, positive affirmations do not work on a person that has been self-programmed to negatively react to a particular event.
Clearing the negative emotion programs that are running is paramount to having success. If you own negative emotions around money then you will struggle. If you own negative emotions around relationships then you will keep having the same difficulty. Remaining in negative emotions over long periods of time will most definitely affect your health. It is all about clearing the negative programs in your subconscious and then reprogramming the new life desired.
When I say "OWN" I mean that these programs, which you have picked up through learned behavior, are yours and can only be changed by you on an individual basis. It has been your interpretation of your environment that is giving you the results you are getting.
To disconnect 'you' from these learned programs it takes an understanding of the connections and then a systematic approach to clearing the counter-productive behavior and reprogramming the subconscious with a new behavior.
The Simplified Mathematical Success Formula
It has been discovered that there is but one simple formula for success, it is as follows;
YS = LoD + CH
YS is "Your Success" or your current result. What you have currently in your life is Your Success. I believe everyone is successful to their particular self-limitations, if they want more they need to change but 2 emotional things.
Part One of the formula; LoD, your "Level of Desire". How bad do you want it? Many of us have been taught not to dream, not to have any expectations from life because, "Life Is Hard!". "Being Successful is hard work" You have probably heard one of those sayings or something similar. When you are taught that life is a struggle, then of course most would give up before they ever started.
Perhaps, you have proved this to yourself already. You have tried and tried but just couldn't get to your goals. In turn you give up and settle back unhappily into your result. This is where life has beat you down and you think why ask for more because I am not worthy of having it. You can be completely oblivious to what the cause may be. If you are at that point in your life where you have given up trying then you have settled into your own self doubt and self loathing. It takes practiced skills to change your level of desire just as you have been practicing the self doubt thought patterns you have at this very moment.
The truth of the matter is that success is no more difficult than mediocrity; it is only a matter of choice.
*Jim Rohn states, "It is not the direction of the wind but the set of the sail that gets you to your destination." When we correct the errors of the past and set some new disciplines for the future, life changes.
You get the good things you want in life when your Level Of Desire exceeds your fear and self doubt.
In other words ...
When your Desire for what you want is strong enough, fear and false beliefs will take a back seat to your desire.
Part Two of the formula; CH, your "Current Habit". Current Habits are the programs that are constantly running in you that dictate your results. They are the anchors that tie you to you current result. These habits and believes have been reinforced with fear and doubt and the programs have become carved in stone.
To pictorially show you this formula I want to direct you to the following work of art on the next page by Nicholas Brooks (Yes, he is my very talented son).
This was Nicholas' perception of our struggle with self limitation and how we are held back by our emotional anchors, beliefs and past. He foresees we all have the capability of finding freedom when we break these chains. The things we desire are immediately in front of us and attainable.
A link to more of Nicholas' art can be found on our home page at GiveUpPain.com.
Most of our habits were built on fear or ill-gotten advice. In their over simplified form they would be like the following scenario;
LoD—A person really wants to be debt-free and living the good life. Modern teachings of the Law of Attraction states, "Ask and it is given". Yet the result appears unchanging, "What could be wrong". The step that most people miss when they speak of Law of Attraction is the most important part; put yourself in a mental and emotional 'mode to receive' what you want. 'Ask' and then emotionally 'Allow' what you have asked for to come to you by 'Feeling' the joy of having what it is that you want.
So we are taught, through positive affirmations, to have happy thoughts and hopefully, with enough gloss on the day, we will get what we asked for. In the 'mode to receive' means; you need to put yourself in alignment with what you want as if you have already received it.
If your LoD has you wanting to be debt-free and living the good life ... and your Current Habit (CH) has you spending money on lottery tickets instead of managing your money ... It Usually Won't Happen because you are coming from the emotion of 'Lack of what you have'.
Let's add some clarity to the formula ... Everyone is at their current level of Success. Your life is currently at the level of your desire and your current habits. In other words, if you don't dream of more and you sit on the couch watching TV brooding about how bad your life is, then your result is exactly matched to the equation.
Current Result; Poor Health LoD; Wants better health, but not enough to change CH CH; Eats all the wrong foods, does not exercise.
To get a new result, let's say great health, a person would need the desire to and emotional vision to see themselves as that fit person and then they will change their current eating and exercising habits.
How do you create desire in someone who has lost hope in themselves?
First remove the fear of moving out of their current habits. Make being uncomfortable, not such a bad thing. Get rid of the false perception and fear, where change equals 'Pain'.
Second create desire by learning how to dream and feel the wonderment of having what you want. Begin the belief in one's own abilities by understanding our own inner truths of how we feel about ourselves.
Not a bit of this can happen until YOU are first brutally honest with yourself. There is no escaping the formula it works every time. The sooner you can realize that you have the habits of your current success, the sooner you can begin to change them.
Someone who is broke needs to create the habit of feeling a prosperity consciousness, move towards simple Money Management skills and realize there is lots of abundance (money) for everyone.
Someone who wants to sell their product or service must overcome their fear of judgment from others, feel they are worthy and have the ability to develop their skills and personality. Knowledge is the path to empowerment.
Someone who wants health needs to see and feel themselves as a healthy person, study and practice good eating and exercising habits. So if you are sitting on the couch, feeling depressed around your body image, wishing your life was different and eating junk food, you really need to change your Current Habit.
Someone who wants world peace and does not see the beauty in our world will surely spend the rest of their days being unhappy until they find inner peace within themselves.
Your Success is equal to Your Level of Desire for what you want plus your movement towards new habits.
Overcome the Fear that holds you back and change your habits/ programs.
Raise your Level of Desire by overcoming the Fears which have you believing you are not worthy of big dreams.
If you are in the state of mind of not being able to move forward then you are most likely in the state of 'Learned Helplessness' caused from years of habitual thinking and fear based beliefs which hold you back.
Learned helplessness is a psychological condition in which a human being or an animal has learned to believe that it is helpless in a particular situation. It has come to believe that it has no control over its situation and that whatever it does is futile. As a result, the human being or the animal will stay passive in the face of an unpleasant, harmful or damaging situation, even when it does actually have the power to change its circumstances. Learned helplessness theory is the view that depression results from a perceived lack of control over the events in one's life, which may result from prior exposure to (actually or apparently) uncontrollable negative events.
In the late 1950's a study was done where dogs were put in a maze and allowed to find their way through to the other side where there were doggy treats, fresh air, and grass; A real doggy heaven. Next the dogs were then strapped in at the starting gate and shocked with electricity if they tried to move forward. When the restraints were removed what surprised the scientists was the dogs would no longer go through the maze even though they knew how. Even shocking the dogs to get them to move did not work. This is how they coined the term "Learned Helplessness".
This same scenario is played out in the training of elephants. At a young age the baby elephants are chained to an anchored object where they are not allowed to move. They learn their freedom is the length of that chain. By the time the elephant reaches adulthood the chain is replaced by a small rope which the elephant could easily break. The elephant has learned that it is futile to struggle so it does not even try.
How bad has life been beating you up that your have learned nothing more than to stand in the starting gate limited by your emotional anchors with too much fear to move forward, knowing right in front of you there is great reward for little effort.
We have wasted too much of our lives focused on the negative within us all instead of the remarkable beings we can be.
This is your life. You are the Master of your Destiny, the Captain of your Soul.
—William Ernest Henley
Chapter TwoThe Root of All Fear
Fear of something is at the root of hate for others, and hate within will eventually destroy the hater.—George Washington Carver
I find this an interesting quote from Mr. Carver, our fear is the root for our own self hatred. What I have found to be true is "What we hate in others, we hate within ourselves.". We see in others the mirrored reflection of our own emotional turmoil. When we ask ourselves why we hate a particular person or why they upset us the most, we will find it is a reflection of what we hate or dislike about our own life. I should add, when we learn to become honest within ourselves. What we end up finding out is our hatred and dislike began as a seed planted from a fear or from our ignorance of compassion for others.
What we have discovered is the interconnection of all fears can be refined down to 2 basic Root fears or the 'Seed of All Fear' if you will. It is in the formation of these two Seed Fears we all have where all other fear develops a foothold. These 2 fears become the base ingredients in our recipe for a host of other root fears and phobias. Through our life events of emotions these ingredients can be mixed to produce any number of sub-fears and sub-phobias.
Think of yourself as the cake made from the base ingredients of flour & water. Neither flour nor water is much without the other. As we choose to build our mixture we may next add yeast and sugar.
Combinations of other spices or seasonings are added and then it is given time to bake to become what it will be.
Our volatile mixtures of emotions and fears given to us at a very early age in life, even inside the womb, will set our emotional compass for the rest of our lives until we learn how to identify them, understand them and rectify their effects on our mind, spirit and body.
It is important to understand ... All emotions release chemical hormones in the body. These hormones become a type of fuel for the cells. These hormones can have a positive effect but some over long periods of time create an addictive response in the brain to produce more of the harmful chemicals. The physiological response we have to any particular emotion determines our health, wealth and happiness but, more on this later in the book.
As I stated, after much research, study, experimentation and consideration we have discovered the 2 basic ingredients of all Fear. They begin within us and determine our responses right from the time we are in the womb. After our birth the very substance of family life determines how you perceive your world and how you will react to any given circumstance. These early years develop the patterns we have for the rest of our lives unless we recognize them and consciously change the habits we have formed we will keep repeating them.
When I first discovered the concept of the Root Fears and began the journey in understanding my own inner fears it completely changed my perception of the world and my place in it.
Often times we only fear what we do not understand and comprehend. To conquer fear we must first take the journey in understanding it. Most fears are just false perceptions and really have no validity once you connect the dots on how you arrived at having the fear.
The Base Ingredients of FEAR!
Base ingredient one; The Fear of Darkness.
When we were performing our study of Fears on Emotions we found the word 'Darkness' does not do the emotional fear justice. Many people interpreted it as a fear of the Dark, which is not accurate.
The Fear of Darkness can also be interpreted as Emptiness. Some have stated it could also be interpreted as the Darkness within us or Evil.
Before we go further it is important to understand we all have the capability to perform good or bad deeds, it is the direction of our emotional compass that determines the result of our actions. Also it is only our perception of what is Good and what is Bad. There are not many truly evil or bad people out there, just people doing what they need to do to survive. Mankind receives far greater satisfaction preserving life and doing good deeds than it does being a destructive negative influence on other living creatures.
Doing Good Does You Good – Regular acts of altruism prolong our lives and improve our happiness. A study comprising of 2700 men over a long period of time, 10 years, found that men who engaged in regular volunteer activities had death rates half of those who did not. Altruistic effects include reduced stress; improved immune system functioning; a sense of joy, peace and well-being; and even relief from physical and emotional pain. These effects tend to last long after the helping encounter, and ... with the frequency of altruistic behavior. Altruism is – unselfish regard for or devotion to the welfare of others
Perhaps this fear began before we could understand our parent's language, before we could see or hear and before we could comprehend anything more than the darkness we were in within the womb. Some scientists and philosophers have determined this essence of fear to be from our very source, our soul prior to coming to this physical plain.
Whatever your beliefs are around this topic, one thing is undeniable. The emotions of the mother experienced by the child in the womb will either support this base fear or negate it.
A mother experiencing stress, self doubt or not feeling love for herself will release more Cortisol and Norepinephrine into her blood stream bombarding the fetus with these very same chemicals and produce the emotional feeling of emptiness within the unborn fetus.
Darkness or emptiness becomes the base ingredient for the child to experience the very same feelings of not being loved. As the child enters the world the perception and beliefs of the adult parents will now foster or quell this chemical reaction and addictive need of the child. The habitual chemical addiction has been set in place for root fears to blossom and grow within.
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Table of Contents
ContentsThe Cover Art Story....................xi
Chapter 1 – The Formula for a Successful Life....................1
Chapter 2 – The Root of All Fear....................9
Chapter 3 – The Fear Relief Study....................50
Chapter 4 – How Fear Effects You on a Cellular Level....................56
Chapter 5 – Your Actions Speak Louder than Words....................70
Chapter 6 – Finding Your Inner Truths....................85
Chapter 7 – How Emotions Affect our Health....................95
Chapter 8 – One simple tool to eradicate Fear Forever....................103
Chapter 9 – Our Body at War, Our World at War....................128
Chapter 10 – You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy!....................136
The Closing – Finding Your Truth....................146
About the Author....................157