Life lessons from single mothers throughout history form the inspiration for single mothers today.
Single moms are not just a product of our modern culture. There have been single mothers throughout history, women who have raised not only their children but also nations with a higher vision for life. Holding Her Head High recounts stories of twelve such women from the third to the twenty-first centuries, women who found ways to twist their fates to represent God's destiny for their lives.
These uniquely powerful, brave women, within the scope of their own world and times, are like the ninety-nine percent of single mothers today who never intended to carry that distinction. They are abandoned, widowed, or divorced, all carrying wounds, yet they also all found ways to exhibit courage, kindness, dignity, and faith to heal themselves by healing others.
Actress Janine Turner, herself a single mother, describes the social implications for women and children from the Roman Empire through the Middle Ages to Pioneer days, including a single mother of slavery. Stories from women like Rachel Lavein Fawcett, abandoned single mother of Alexander Hamilton; Abagail Adams, a wartime widow; Harriet Jacobs, an unwed mother of slavery whose autobiography was published the year the Civil War began; and widowed Belva Lockwood, the first woman to officially run for President, all carrying wounds but all offering insight, wisdom, and encouragement. Lessons include:
- Listen for God's higher calling
- Hold your head high
- Dare to dream
- Champion your children
- Heal with humor
- Don't Give Up Before the Miracle
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About the Author
Janine Turner, single mother and actress, played the indefatigable Maggie O'Connell on CBS's hit show Northern Exposure for which she received three Golden Globe Best Actress nominations and one Emmy nomination. She was also chosen as one of People magazine's 50 Most Beautiful People and 10 Best Dressed, and as one of Esquire's Women We Love. She starred in Cliffhanger with Sylvester Stallone and as June Cleaver in the feature film Leave It to Beaver. More recently she starred on Lifetime's hit series Strong Medicine. Besides acting and directing she serves on President Bush's Council for Service and Civic Participation, but her most cherished role is that of mother to Juliette, now nine years old. She counts her greatest blessings to be her faith, her daughter, and spending time together on their ranch in Texas.
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holding her head high
12 single mothers who championed their children and changed history
By Janine Turner
Copyright © 2008 Janine Turner
All right reserved.
The Roman Empire-Setting the Stage 27 BC-AD 476
After the death and resurrection of Jesus, the conversion of Constantine may have been the most implication-laden event in western history. -James Carroll, Constantine's Sword
Rome. The Roman Empire. Vast. Vacillating. Murder and intrigue. Senators and emperors. War and warriors. Proudly civilized and grandly grotesque. Christians in chains and children's cries. A culture poised on the brink of change. Who will be their leader?
The Roman Empire was vast, from western Asia to Britain and Spain, from the Danube River in Central Europe to the edge of the Sahara Desert in North Africa. The eastern part of the empire survived until AD 476 and the Western Empire survived as the Byzantine Empire until AD 1453.
The early Roman population was pagan, tolerating the bane of human behavior, and could be easily justified as a religion steeped in evil, as exhibited in the games and circuses in places such as the Coliseum, which exhibited public displays of torture, violence, and death. Romans entertained themselves with triumphs, games, and great spectacles that concluded with slaughters of animals and humans. It was barbaric and cruel. Paganism also tolerated all sexual mores in their temples, ranging from sodomy to orgies, prostitution to bestiality and sadomasochism.
After the death and resurrection of Christ, Christians were subjected to horrific executions. The early church sustained an intense period of savage persecution, and Christians were brutally martyred by the Roman government up to twenty-five years before Constantine. And there was no collective, social consciousness that exhibited restraint or remorse. Infants' spirits were snuffed out as they were given as human sacrifices to the false gods. "Paganism prevailed in the land of the prophets." Darkness reigned.
By Roman law, the family was strictly patriarchal. The paterfamilias, the father, was the head of the Roman family. He owned the property acquired by his sons and had the right to sell his children into slavery or expose them. Women did have a few advantages compared to other centuries-they could divorce their husbands and control their own property. A woman was held under the legal control of the father until his death, even if she were married. After the death of her father, she was under the legal hand of her husband. If a woman was raped, she could not seek recourse, only her father or husband could press charges. A man could, by law, kill his wife if she was caught in an adulterous affair, but if a man committed adultery, he was not punished. Women had no status or political rights.
Marriage and childbearing were considered a woman's purpose in the Roman Empire. Marriages were arranged by the parents, and a young girl was usually married by the age of sixteen. The bride brought a dowry to the marriage, but unlike later centuries and societies, the dowry was not to be touched in case of unforeseen circumstances, such as divorce. Capturing a woman was a way of getting around a fixed marriage and was, perhaps, a way of getting the parents to accept a true love. However, this practice was later forbidden because it forbad the father the right to decide what was best for his daughter. Interestingly, divorce was very easily obtained during Roman times. A marriage was not considered holy, only a loose contract. Marriages were dissolved by mutual consent, the couple simply declaring their desire to divorce before seven witnesses.
The father also had control of a child's fate. Infanticide was an accepted act in the Roman culture. After birth a child was set at the feet of the father, who would lift the child into the air, deciding if the child should live or die. A wife could be disowned if she denied the father that decision. Infanticide was widely accepted, considered legal, and justified by philosophers such as Plato and Aristotle. Baby girls were more susceptible to the act of infanticide due to the considerable expense of wedding dowries. Roman law also forbad a man from taking in an abandoned child and saving it. Alarmingly, children were sometimes sealed in the foundations of bridges to strengthen the structures dating back to the walls of Jericho. Lloyd de Mause states, "To this day, when children play 'London Bridge is falling down' they are acting out a sacrifice to the river goddess when they catch a child at the end of the game." Disregard for children permeated all lands.
Light into Darkness
Then Christ. Light breathed into darkness. Christianity's mission was to spread "the light" through all ethnic cultures. Matthew 19:13-14 says,
Then little children were brought to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked those who brought them. Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." (NIV)
Children have value? Children belonged to the kingdom of heaven? This concept was revolutionary! Everyone, even the little children, was created in God's image. The Epistle of Barnabas prohibited infanticide, and following this law was considered essential to the "way of light." Infanticide was considered murder. Various Christian pamphlets taught, "You shall not commit infanticide." However, as long as Christianity was an underground religion hiding from persecution, efforts remained almost ineffectual.
Entering the world stage next was Constantine, whose conversion to Christianity and breadth of change he brought to Christians, Christianity, and to the Christian church is, according to James Carroll, author of Constantine's Sword, "the second greatest story ever told." Carroll expresses that "after the death and resurrection of Jesus, the conversion of Constantine may have been the most implication-laden event in western history."
Constantine unified a suppressed church and a scattered band of disciples. As the leader of the world's biggest empire, his acceptance of Christ paved the way for the end of persecutions of Christians and propelled the illumination of Christ's light upon a dark, barbaric land. Disciples could now spread the word about how, with Christ's intervention, the human spirit can transcend the limitations of evil and partake in the supernatural. The Christian way of life was to offer alternative behaviors to murder and perverse sexuality. Christians had been in hiding. Jerusalem had lain as a wasteland but the scene was set to change. God had chosen Constantine through a divine vision to be a facilitator of unity for Christians and the Christian church.
Constantine, the son of Helena Augusta.
Then Christ. Light breathed into darkness ... Jesus, by reaching out to little children, validated and honored the life of a child. -Janine Turner
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Table of ContentsAcknowledgments xiii
Introduction: How Did a Baptist Girl from Texas End Up as a Single Mom? xv
The Roman Empire-Setting the Stage 1
Listen for God's Higher Calling-Helena Augusta 7
The Middle Ages-Setting the Stage 27
Choose God's Greatness-Blanche of Castile 35
Turn Tribulations into Triumphs-Christine De Pizan 59
Colonial and Revolutionary America-Setting the Stage 85
Define Your Own Destiny-Rachel Lavein Fawcett 95
Dare to Dream-Eliza Pinckney 113
Put God First-Isabella Graham 133
Go the Extra Mile-Elizabeth Timothy 155
Champion Your Children-Abigail Adams 165
Single Mothers of Slavery-Setting the Stage 181
Don't Give Up Before the Miracle-Harriet Jacobs 187
Pioneer Single Mothers-Setting the Stage 221
Heal with Humor-Elinore Pruitt Stewart 229
Persevere with Praise-Aunt Clara Brown 251
Soar on Eagle's Wings-Belva Lockwood 277
Conclusion: Virtual Conversations 313
I'm not really sure how to feel about this book. I do think that Turner should have chosen another title. Holding Her Head High implies to me that these women had reason to be ashamed of their single motherhood. Of the biographies I read (I didn't finish the last three), only one woman meets that criteria - and there were extenuating circumstances in her case as well (her abusive husband wouldn't grant her a divorce, so she left anyway and later lived with another man). That said, these women do have amazing stories to tell, and their lives can be used to encourage many women. While the stories are interesting, the writing is rough. Turner learned the English grammar lesson that a series is "three or more things" well and EVERYTHING is "point A, point B, and point C". Many of her turns of phrase are awkward, and I found myself having to reread sentences to figure out exactly what she meant.Still, Turner makes her point with these stories, and the book would make a good study for a women's Bible group.
I've desperately tried to like this book and I was in fact quite excited when I was told I had a chance to review it for LibraryThing. I read quite a bit of Christian inspiration, so this seemed like it would be a good fit for me. However, I was turned off from the get-go. The writing style, especially the one-word-sentence "Setting the Scene" paragraphs at the beginning of each chapter, just set my teeth on edge. Much of the history is specious at best, sort of a "Veggie Tales" slice of life. I half expected to be introduced to Queen Blanche the Beansprout of France by the time I got to her chapter. This is a book for the evangelical crowd for sure, but maybe that's okay. Reading some of the reviews on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.com I was touched by how some of the readers were indeed inspired by these stories."Holding Her Head High" is not for everyone but it's for someone out there. All single mothers should hold their heads high and should never be made to feel as if they shouldn't (I should mention that the title of this book annoyed me as well). As other reviewers have already noted, some of these women weren't even single parents. Hopefully this book will encourage a single mother out there and if so, then Ms. Turner has done her job.
Sorry folks, but I can't recommend this book to anyone but devout Christians who are accustomed to dry reading material.I am a big fan of the author. I loved her in many of her acting roles and Northern Exposure was one of my favorite television shows. I also knew that Ms. Turner has spoken out about the importance of her faith. Knowing this I was very enthusiastic to read her book. I am sorry to say I cannot seem to finish reading it. I was so excited initially when I received a copy to review. But after finishing the first chapter, I had a sinking feeling it wasn't going to get any more interesting. While I find the idea of the book fascinating, the work itself just doesn't hold my attention. The writing seems stilted and I never forget I am reading a book. The mothers she highlights never really come to life for me and I lose interest repeatedly while trying to read. I find myself counting the pages left to read in the chapter I am reading and that is never a good sign. This book just feels more like homework that I don't want to work on. I am only about halfway through and maybe my opinion will change if I can ever finish the book. If I ever do, I will come back on here and edit my review.
I've recently become a single mother and I love reading great stories about women in history. I saw this book being offered in the Early Reviewer program and was excited to see it. A presentation of 12 women who have helped form history while raising their children alone. Having spent time as an Army wife, I even allowed for her to include a married woman whose husband was away for a long time.Then the book came. Turner has her ideas about what history was like and is unable to understand, let alone communicate, the context of history or the richness of what life was truely like in the times she presents. She shows a disregard for her readers by feeding them pablum that she dresses up as the results of historical research. This starts with her reconstruction of the Roman Empire and continues through Revolutionary Mothers and amazingly strong women.I think my biggest problem with this book is its awful advertising. Rather than present it as an inspirational book with a desire to point out God's (Evangelical Christian) plan for all people, even single mothers, this book was presented as a history of single mothers, highlighting 12. The writing is poor, as is the organization. It disturbs me how little she actually researched this-from her description in the introduction, you'd expect hundreds of unique books and articles cited. Nope.If I knew a deeply troubled single mother who was tenuously grasping to her faith, with no background in history and no desire to actually learn history, I would absolutly recommend this book to her. But I would never recommend it-as a friend, as a librarian, or as a coworker-to anyone whose intelligence I respected and who is actually looking for the true lives of some really amazing women, mothers, who have gone it alone.
This book was not what I expected. Janine Turner definately stretches the definition of single motherhood. However I think the book is worth reading. The twelve women profiled here were mothers who faced many difficulties. The book begins with Helena Augusta, mother of the first Christian Roman emperor, Constantine. It continues with others such as the american agricultural pioneer, Eliza Lucas Pinckney, and mothers who were born into slavery like Harriet Jacobs and Aunt Clara Brown. Taken together they present a picture of life for European and American women over the last 1800 years. Throughout history women did not have the right to own property. Children were considered the legal property of the father. The last woman profiled in this book is Belva Lockwood. She was instrumental in passing the Married Womens Property Act which brought about a significant change in the lives of all American women. Belva was the first woman to run for president even before women had the vote. Her story as well as all the others are inspiring.
I'm not really sure how to feel about this book. I do think that Turner should have chosen another title. Holding Her Head High implies to me that these women had reason to be ashamed of their single motherhood. Of the biographies I read (I didn't finish the last three), only one woman meets that criteria - and there were extenuating circumstances in her case as well (her abusive husband wouldn't grant her a divorce, so she left anyway and later lived with another man). That said, these women do have amazing stories to tell, and their lives can be used to encourage many women. While the stories are interesting, the writing is rough. Turner learned the English grammar lesson that a series is 'three or more things' well and EVERYTHING is 'point A, point B, and point C'. Many of her turns of phrase are awkward, and I found myself having to reread sentences to figure out exactly what she meant. Still, Turner makes her point with these stories, and the book would make a good study for a women's Bible group.
A rare subject not often written about and this one is EXCELLENT. Not too often have I seen books written about single mothers and the plight that these inspirational women endured to make it in life. Janine's words are inviting and I couldn't put the book down. She describes even the most poor and vulnerable women who somehow had the courage and the strength to buck the norm and raise children who contributed to society in many valuable ways. The charm of this book is, it was written so all woman of all walks of life could relate to it. The fact that she undertook such a huge but under written subject is amazing. Janine just proves that her mountains in life are the same mountains that we as women all face in our life. How many people knew about Christine Pisan, the strength of Harriet Jacobs a slave women and Belva Lockwood the first woman to practice in the Supreme Court and run for the highest office in the land and years before The Women's Sufferage Act of 1921...amazing. These women deserve to be praised for their contributions not only to society but also for the trail they blazed for all of us. I'm glad Janine, a single mother herself, was able to take time to read about these amazing women in history and put it in her own words as seen through her own eyes from her own experience.
I am convinced that Ms. Turner has been truly blessed with a gift that gives hope and inspiration with her writing. This Book has the power to lift you up when you feel at your lowest. Be it that you are a single parent through choice or circumstance, this book shows that with the love of God, you can withstand all of the odds to be the parent and person that God has planned. Thank You MS. Turner for sharing these stories with us.
Each storie touched me. As a woman who has gone through divorce and seen first hand the struggles of a single mother I could relate to each story. I thank Janine for having the courage and fortitude to make sure that theses stories are heard and hopefully they will inspire others as they have me. As a long time fan of Ms. Turner she continuously amazes me with her versatility. Thank you and please don't stop doing what you think is right.
Janine Turner's first book deals with a subject near and dear to her heart: Motherhood and specifically Single Motherhood! Her tales of single moms through history is enlightening, empowering, and frankly fascinating. From Helena Augusta to Belva Lockwood, she shows that the trials, tribulations and triumphs of being a single mom is not a new phenomenon. Janine takes us on an historic journey and we also see a whole new side of the gal we'll always think of as Maggie on TV's 'Northern Exposure!'
Holding Her Head High is an inspirational book that lifts up every mother, single or married, who ever felt alone and challenged by circumstances beyond her control. Janine Turner, herself a single mother, reaches back through time to bring us well researched, intimate portraits of 12 amazing women who lovingly raised their children through faith and determination, and 'found their wings' along the way, changing history! The portraits Janine paints will stay with you long after you turn the last page, to be called up at will during trying times. Janine not only chronicles these women's lives, she highlights valuable lessons to be learned from each, and intersperses their stories with personal insights on her life as a single mother. This book will make a wonderful Mother's Day gift for any mother, and its historical accounts are just in time for Women's History Month in March! I suggest you buy at least two - one for yourself and one to give away!
After reading some of the online pages available for preview, I can tell this is a book I'm gonna really enjoy. Having to handle all the responsibilities for raising two young children after a divorce is more than I can take sometimes. Thank you Janine for writing this book. Single Mom's like me need this kind of encouragement that what we're going really can make a difference.