Did you know the last fight you had with your spouse began long before you even met?
Are you tired of falling into frustrating relational patterns in your marriage? Do you and your spouse fight about the same things again and again?
Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, Milan and Kay explore how your childhood created an “intimacy imprint” that affects your marriage today. Their stories and practical ideas help you:
* identify your personal love style
* understand how your early life impacts you and your spouse
* break free from painful patterns that keep you stuck
* find healing for the source of conflict, not just the symptoms
* create the close, nourishing relationship you dream about
Revised throughout with all-new material and additional visual diagrams, this expanded edition of How We Love will bring vibrant life to your marriage. Are you ready for a new journey of love?
Note: The revised and expanded How We Love Workbook is available separately.
|Publisher:||The Crown Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.10(d)|
About the Author
Milan and Kay Yerkovich are marriage counselors with decades of experience. Milan is a cohost of New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn. He holds a master’s degree in biblical studies and is the founder of the counseling center Relationship 180. Kay has a master’s degree in counseling and focuses on helping couples create healthy attachment. Together Milan and Kay have developed a method of couples therapy called Attachment Core Pattern Therapy. The Yerkoviches are the parents of four adult children. They make their home in southern California.
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Why Every Marriage Gets Stuck
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Table of Contents
Foreword Stephen Arterburn ix
Preface to the Expanded Edition xiii
Preface to the First Edition xv
Part 1 What Determines How You Love
1 Why Every Marriage Gets Stuck 3
2 The Revealing Question You Need to Answer 13
3 Imprints of Intimacy from Our First Lessons in Love 25
4 Ideal Love Lessons: The Secure Connector 37
Part 2 Styles That Impair How We Love
5 The Avoider Love Style 57
6 The Pleaser Love Style 71
7 The Vacillator Love Style 88
8 The Chaotic (Controller and Victim) Love Styles 101
9 Identifying Your Love Style 121
Part 3 Duets That Damage How We Love
10 The Vacillator Marries the Avoider 135
11 The Pleaser Marries the Vacillator 148
12 The Controller Marries the Victim 160
13 The Avoider Marries the Pleaser 174
14 Other Challenging Combinations 192
The Avoider Marries the Avoider 192
The Pleaser Marries the Pleaser 195
The Vacillator Marries the Controller 198
The Vacillator Marries the Vacillator 202
The Controller Marries the Avoider 205
Part 4 Changing How We Love
15 The Comfort Circle 215
16 Seek Awareness 233
17 Engage 253
18 Explore 267
19 Resolve 287
20 Seeing into Your Spouse's Soul 310
Soul Words 318
For Further Study: Attachment Theory 320