I Shouldn't Be Telling You This: How to Ask for the Money, Snag the Promotion, and Create the Career You Deserve

by Kate White

Overview

“I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is packed with practical lessons she’s learned over a long tenure as a leader.”— Fast Company

Whether you’ve just settled into your first work cubicle and have no clue how to go after the success you crave, or you’ve already got a sweet little office but aren’t sure what’s required to take your career to the next level, I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This gives you all the secrets you need to become a success, go big with it, and then savor every second. It is jam-packed with insider strategies, interviews with mega successful women, and advice from Kate White’s own career running five major magazines (including the best-selling women’s magazine in the world, Cosmopolitan). 

In this book, Kate shows you how to be in the know, master the learning curve, make bold moves, and ultimately, have the career you’ve always lusted for! 5 SECRETS EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW: • Land a Job You’re Truly Passionate About • Use “Bitch Envy” to Your Advantage • Radiate Confidence and Get Buzzed about (without Worrying What Other People Think) • Ask for the Money Want-and Get It •Manage Your Career and Not Just Your Job (It’s a Whole Different Ballgame!) But more than anything, Kate says, you have to GO BIG OR GO HOME-make the bold moves and always keep the big picture in mind. It might be tackling a project no one else is taking on and nailing it-and making sure your boss knows it, or how to develop a golden gut that will help you to break the rules the right way, so that you always come out shining. 

In I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This, Kate White shares the kind of secrets no boss is ever likely to spill-all with her irreverent wit and candid style.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062122100
Publisher:	HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:	10/01/2013
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	368
Sales rank:	768,211
Product dimensions:	5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Kate White is the New York Times bestselling author of eight standalone psychological thrillers, including Have You Seen Me? (2020) and the upcoming The Fiancée (June 2021), as well as eight Bailey Weggins mysteries, including Such a Perfect Wife, which was nominated for an International Thriller Writers Award. Kate, the former editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan, is also the author of several popular career books for women, including I Shouldn't Be Telling You This: How to Ask for the Money, Snag the Promotion, and Create the Career You Deserve and Why Good Girls Don’t Get Ahead, as well the editor of the Anthony and Agatha Award-nominated The Mystery Writers of America Cookbook. 

Hometown:

New York, New York

Date of Birth:

1950

Place of Birth:

Glens Falls, New York

Education:

Union College, 1972

Website:

http://www.KateWhite.com

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction xiii

Part I Success: How to Get It 1

Rule #1: Go Big or Go Home 5

What Are You Really Lusting For? 9

Ballsy Strategies for Finding a Job 19

Know What They Know About You 29

How to Nail a Job Interview 33

9 Things You Should Never Do in a New Job 45

Now Knock Their Socks Off 51

How to Pull Off a Project Perfectly 57

Develop a Golden Gut 63

Always Ask for What You Want 69

Success Style: 10 Easy Steps 81

Why You Should Get in Touch with Your Bitch Envy 87

4 Tips for Masterfully Managing Your Boss 91

How to Dazzle at a Meeting 97

12 Ways to Get Buzzed About 103

Be Grabby! 113

What You Need Even More Than a Mentor 117

Career Breakthroughs: The Very Simple Formula 123

Part II Success: How to Go Big with It 127

Get Some Eye of the Tiger 131

How to Come Up with Bold, Brilliant Ideas 137

You, the Brand 145

My Best Rules for Being a Boss 151

Arrive at Work Before Everybody Else 165

Beware of Sudden Promotion Syndrome 167

18 People Principles: Because Now You Really, Really Need Them 175

The Secret Weapon That Will Make You a Winner (and Save Your Butt) 191

How to Own a Room-and Be Great on Your Feet 197

9 Ways to Look and Sound Powerful 205

Drain the Swamp as" You Slay the Alligators, or Possibly the Best Work Advice I Have Ever Been Given 211

11 Things I've Learned About Choices, Decisions, and Risk 215

It Pays to Be a Little Paranoid 221

Go Big or Go Home, 2: You're Going to Have to Break the Rules 227

Advanced Networking (Never Say You're Too Busy to Do It) 233

When Bad Things Happen 239

Why You Must Manage Your Career as Well as Your Job 247

What to Do When Things Change (and They Will!) 255

Bravo! You Landed the BIG JOB. Now What? 261

Part III Success: How to Savor It 269

The Bliss Quiz: Is Your Success Making You Happy? 273

Why You Must Absolutely Be the Boss of Your Personal Life, Too 279

Terrific Time-Management Tricks 287

How to Handle an Insane Day 293

Setting Boundaries 297

Drain the Swamp as You Slay the Alligators, 2 301

Men, Love, and Success 305

How to Be Smart About Maternity Leave 313

My Kids Aren't Serial Killers-Yet 319

Discover Rotisserie Chicken and Other Ways to Keep Life Simple 329

Take Your Own Sweet Time 333

Make Your Back-Pocket Dream a Reality (While You've Still Got a Day Job) 337

Reinvention: A Brief Course 341

What People are Saying About This

Claire Shipman

“This is NOT your mother’s plodding, nose-to-the-grindstone, put-on-a-power-suit career guide. Kate White gives us her witty and wise secret sauce to fast-tracking your career, thinking big, having fun, getting the money you deserve—all while pursuing your passion.”

Mika Brzezinski

“Kate’s fierce courage and determination make this book a witty, fun, and refreshingly blunt read for career women-teachers and CEOs alike!”

Editorial Reviews

This is NOT your mother’s plodding, nose-to-the-grindstone, put-on-a-power-suit career guide. Kate White gives us her witty and wise secret sauce to fast-tracking your career, thinking big, having fun, getting the money you deserve—all while pursuing your passion.

Claire Shipman

I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is packed with practical lessons she’s learned over a long tenure as a leader.

Fast Company

Kate’s fierce courage and determination make this book a witty, fun, and refreshingly blunt read for career women-teachers and CEOs alike!

Mika Brzezinski

I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This packs a powerful punch: Ms. White covers every possible topic the up-and-coming female executive will need to tuck into her Prada portfolio. This book should be on every career-minded woman’s bookshelf dog-eared and well read.

New York Journal of Books

White’s advice is smart and pithy-and maybe I shouldn’t be telling you this, but guys can get plenty from this book, too.

Reader's Digest

I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is packed with practical lessons she’s learned over a long tenure as a leader.

Fast Company

“In this self-help tome, Cosmo’s former editor in chief combines the story of her own career path with interviews and research to impart sensible lessons about getting ahead in the world while still having a personal life…Whether you are a just-hatched college grad or a sacred elder in need of an occupational overhaul, Kate White can help.”

USA Today

It will come as no surprise that White, the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine, would write a career guide that’s lively, funny, and rife with quick-read tips. White, author of Why Good Girls Don’t Get Ahead, but Gutsy Girls Do and “eight mysteries and thrillers,” chronicles her move up the ranks of the magazine world, aiming to help women at all stages of their career. She runs through the essentials of managing your success and making sure your success actually, in the long run, makes you happy. Through stories of her magazine jobs, she proffers advice on networking, interviewing, handling gossip, learning to take credit when it’s due, assembling a personal board of directors rather than a mentor, making good hiring decisions, and learning how to radiate power. White’s enthusiasm and verve combine with tales of challenges and successes from a fascinating career. This as well as stories of celebrities and successful women make the book an energetic, inspiring career memoir. Agent: Sandra Dijkstra. (Sept.)

Publishers Weekly

Here's what White is doing when she's not at her desk as editor in chief of Cosmopolitan or writing best sellers like the Bailey Weggins mystery series: she's writing a career guide for women aiming to make it in today's tumultuous business world. With a 40,000-copy first printing and lots of publicity through social media.

Library Journal

In this follow-up to her bestseller Why Good Girls Don't Get Ahead…but Gutsy Girls Do (1996), Cosmopolitan editor-in-chief White (The Sixes, 2011, etc.) offers straight-shooting career advice to women at all stages of their professional lives. In the first section of the book, the author discusses how to gain a foothold in the workplace and includes advice on everything from how to get a job and manage projects to developing "a golden gut" to read work situations beyond a surface level. As White sees it, success isn't just about doing things right and "dazzling your boss." It's also about knowing how to survive, and thrive, in sometimes-hostile environments and unapologetically grab for the opportunities and sponsors (rather than mentors) that can make a real difference. White then turns her attention to what to do after a career begins to gather momentum. The first thing is to become "focused, fierce and steadfast." This means learning how to own power and the responsibilities that come with it and understanding that personal confidence can ebb as well as flow. The key is to be self-aware and open to all possibilities for continued growth and development as a leader. But success only goes so far. In the last section, which is unfortunately the shortest, White discusses how to enjoy being at the top. She offers tips for time management, including ways to handle maternity leave. White's portrait of a highly structured, tightly scheduled life may not appeal to all readers, but her advice is useful and delightfully no-nonsense. A smart, savvy guide for working women looking to climb the professional ladder and maintain positions of power.

Kirkus Reviews

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