It's Okay to Laugh: (Crying Is Cool Too)

It's Okay to Laugh: (Crying Is Cool Too)


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“Thank you for the perfect blend of nostalgia-drenched humor, wit, and heartbreak, Nora.” — Mandy Moore

comedy = tragedy + time/rosé

Twenty-seven-year-old Nora McInerny Purmort bounced from boyfriend to dopey “boyfriend” until she met Aaron—a charismatic art director and comic-book nerd who once made Nora laugh so hard she pulled a muscle. When Aaron was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer, they refused to let it limit their love. They got engaged on Aaron’s hospital bed and had a baby boy while he was on chemo. In the period that followed, Nora and Aaron packed fifty years of marriage into the three they got, spending their time on what really matters: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, each other, and Beyoncé. A few months later, Aaron died in Nora’s arms. The obituary they wrote during Aaron’s hospice care revealing his true identity as Spider-Man touched the nation. With It’s Okay to Laugh, Nora puts a young, fresh twist on the subjects of mortality and resilience. What does it actually mean to live your “one wild and precious life” to the fullest? How can a joyful marriage contain more sickness than health? How do you keep going when life kicks you in the junk? In this deeply felt and deeply funny memoir, Nora gives her readers a true gift—permission to struggle, permission to laugh, permission to tell the truth and know that everything will be okay. It’s Okay to Laugh is a love letter to life, in all its messy glory; it reads like a conversation with a close friend, and leaves a trail of glitter in its wake.

This book is for people who have been through some shit.

This is for people who aren’t sure if they’re saying or doing the right thing (you’re not, but nobody is). This is for people who had their life turned upside down and just learned to live that way. For people who have laughed at a funeral or cried in a grocery store. This is for everyone who wondered what exactly they’re supposed to be doing with their one wild and precious life. I don’t actually have the answer, but if you find out, will you text me?

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062419385
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 04/04/2017
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 44,362
Product dimensions: 5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.68(d)

About the Author

Nora McInerny Purmort  was voted Most Humorous by the Annunciation Catholic School Class of 1998. It was mostly downhill after that, but she did get to spend three glorious years married to Aaron Joseph Purmort (aka Spider-Man). Her work has appeared on TIME,,, the Huffington Post, BuzzFeed, Slate, and in the Star Tribune. She lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota, with her son, Ralph. They really like it there.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 Lay Off Me, Mary 5

Chapter 2 Now 11

Chapter 3 Stories 17

Chapter 4 Brothers Gotta Hug 29

Chapter 5 Take the Message to Garcia 35

Chapter 6 Where Is My Syllabus? 39

Chapter 7 iPhone Therapy 47

Chapter 8 My Eighties-Sitcom Dad 55

Chapter 9 Family (A Story About Juggalos and Not My Actual Family, Sorry Siblings) 59

Chapter 10 A Boy Is Why I Moved to New York, and a Boy Is Why I Left 63

Chapter 11 How I Met Your Father 71

Chapter 12 Please Let Me Get What I Want 77

Chapter 13 What to Do When the Person You Love Gets Brain Cancer (or Any Cancer) 83

Chapter 14 And Also With You 87

Chapter 15 Sorry You Dated Me 93

Chapter 16 Slut 95

Chapter 17 The Game 99

Chapter 18 My Ex-Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend 103

Chapter 19 Who Should You Marry? 109

Chapter 20 The Most Magical Place on Earth 113

Chapter 21 Hot Young Widows Club 117

Chapter 22 A Letter to the Recruiter Who Emailed My Husband a Month After His Death 123

Chapter 23 Life Plans I've Made Since My Husband Died 125

Chapter 24 Quiet, Susan 131

Chapter 25 Madge 139

Chapter 26 It's a Secret, So Hush 145

Chapter 27 Immaculate Conception 155

Chapter 28 Helpful Advice for New Mothers 161

Chapter 29 Everyone Thinks Their Kid Is the Best but Mine Actually Is 165

Chapter 30 Hoarder 173

Chapter 31 You're Doing a Good Job 181

Chapter 32 Relationship Porn (XXX, NSFW) 185

Chapter 33 Cool Widow Kind of Wants to Kiss Someone 189

Chapter 34 Frenching in a Van 197

Chapter 35 How You Do It 203

Chapter 36 Please Like Me 207

Chapter 37 I Don't Want to Make It Look Easy 213

Chapter 38 No 217

Chapter 39 Meanwhile, the World Goes On 221

Chapter 40 Is He Going to Die Soon? 229

Chapter 41 "The Boy Is Mine" 235

Chapter 42 Welcome to Grey Gardens 241

Chapter 43 Petty Crimes 245

Chapter 44 Lean In 251

Chapter 45 Just Quit 257

Chapter 46 It's Going to Be Okay (I Think) 263

Life Update for People Who Haven't Googled Me Recently 273

Acknowledgements 280

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