Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

by Emerson Eggerichs

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Overview

New York Times best-selling marriage book making a difference! More than one million copies sold!

Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love & Respect message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.

A wife has one driving need?to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need?to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love & Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.

What readers say about Love & Respect

  • “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.”
  • “This is the key that I have been missing.”
  • “You connected all the dots for me.”
  • “As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material.”
  • “You’re on to something huge here.”

Partner Love & Respect with the Love & Respect Workbook for Couples, Individuals, and Groups for an added experience. Love & Respect is also available in Spanish, Amor y Respeto.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781418569051
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 09/05/2004
Sold by: HarperCollins Publishing
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 336
Sales rank: 28,645
File size: 1 MB

About the Author

Emerson Eggerichs, PhD, is an internationally known communication expert and author of the New York Times bestseller Love & Respect.  Just as Dr. Eggerichs transformed millions of marital relationships with a biblical understanding of love and respect, he also turned these principles to one of the most important relationships of all in Mother & Son:  The Respect Effect.  As a communication expert, Emerson has also spoken to groups such as the NFL, NBA, PGA, US Navy SEALs and members of Congress. He was the senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for almost twenty years.  Emerson holds a PhD in child and family ecology from Michigan State University, a BA in Biblical Studies from Wheaton College, an MA in communications from Wheaton College Graduate School, and an MDiv from the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary. He and his wife Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three adult children.

 

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Love & Respect 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 226 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I believe in gender differences, and I believe that Biblical passages on marriage reflect those differences. God calls me to submit to my husband. God calls my husband to sacrifice for me. My submission and my husband's sacrifice are gender-nuanced reflections of our mutual obedience to God. Reading Love and Respect helped me to understand those differences. The Crazy Cycle is an insightful description of the breakdown in communication that happens in all too many marriages. And, the author does an absolutely outstanding job of explaining how a wife can do her part to end the Crazy Cycle. By this I mean the author's discussion of what respect and submission look like in the contemporary cultural context, as well as the author's explanations of the importance of a wife's respect to her husband. I encourage every wife to read and apply the material in the CHAIRS chapters. However, my husband and I are in agreement that Love and Respect does at best an incomplete job of describing what it means for a husband to love his wife and to sacrifice for her. It's not that we disagree with what Eggerichs does say. Far from it! God calls husbands to cleave to their wives, and COUPLE describes what that looks like. But, much is missing from Eggerichs' counsel to husbands, and we think that what's missing is very important. Let me begin by explaining why I found Eggerichs' counsel to wives to be so valuable. Six years after reading the book, I continue to go back to the CHAIRS principles. Each time, I leave with new insights into how my husband is wired and why God calls me to show him respect. I've been amazed at how my respect empowers me. It opens my husband's heart to hear me and to respond to me. By design, it is God's tool for motivating my husband. It is how I as a wife am to respond to my husband in ways that nourish the one-flesh unity implied by the Head/Body metaphor. But, my husband and I can't say the same about the counsel to husbands. The most glaring omission is in the area of sexuality. In the CHAIRS material, Eggerichs does a masterful job of explaining to wives, the immediacy of their husbands' sex drives. However, there is no corresponding treatment of female sexuality. Rather than painting a beautiful picture of a husband wooing his wife with sensitivity and a wife joyfully responding to her husband's initiative, sex is implicitly portrayed as something to which a wife submits (or, alternatively, something to check off her to-do list). Here, the author's writing reflects not so much the mutuality of I Corinthians 7, but the tit-for-tat exchange that underlies Willard Harley's His Needs, Her Needs. My husband's observation is that there isn't much sacrifice in the COUPLE teaching. Husbands are to spend a few minutes each day connecting with their wives and listening with empathy as their wives share the report of the day, realizing and releasing their emotions in the process. Wives are assured that when there is a decision to be made, loving husbands will consider their input. But, in the COUPLE teaching, husbands are not counseled that they should consider their wives' input and/or make sacrifices for their wives. Rather, the focus is on the importance of husbands tolerating the emotionality of their wives.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I dont think I've ever read a bigger load of BS. The author has it in for women and blames them for everything, using the bible as his justification. As an example, he tells about how he completely forgot his wifes birthday, and then goes on to say that he felt judged and put down and therefore disrespected. WHAT!?!?! He forgets her birthday, and he accuses her of disrespect??? I struggled through the whole book, and he makes some good points, but continually asserts that women are the problem in most marriages and most marital problems can be solved if women just show more respect for their husbands, even if it isnt earned. Women should be secondary to their spouses and let the man make the decisions. Women are portrayed as screeching witches and the men are just clueless and sulky. I dont screetch at my husband, and he doesnt give me the silent treatment when he's mad. Even when the author made a good point, like encouraging men to apologize -and he acknowledges that this is very difficult for most men to do- he wrecks his whole effort by then pointing out that saying your sorry often leads to sex. So, is that why men should say they are sorry? To get us into bed? In my house, all family members treat each other with respect. And I would not stay married to a man who didnt respect me. Ladies, its not all your fault. Love and respect should be mutual. Its not about you respecting him first so that he will love you. Thats crap. Instead of reading this garbage, learn to respect yourself first.
HappyJG More than 1 year ago
So, I've been reading Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs this week, and, to be fair, his premise is great. Working from Ephesians 5:33, Eggerichs argues that women need love and men need respect and that the amount of love and respect in a marriage will determine it's success or failure. Eggerichs goes with the "respect" translation here instead of "submission," a decision that, I think, eventually weakens his case. It's very possible for a woman to submit to a man who often disappoints her, but much harder for a woman to respect that man. She can act respectfully. Anyway, I agree with Eggerichs that men need to be valued and admired and treated with respect. I also agree that women need to be loved. I wonder though if men do really prefer respect to love. My husband said he didn't think that was true for him (which really undercuts the value of my reading the book) and my preacher said from the pulpit the other night that he'd prefer to be loved than respected. That's certainly not exhaustive research, but it makes me wonder. Overall, I think this book fails to execute on an excellent idea primarily because of what seems like a serious bias against women. I posted this possibility on facebook and quickly heard from multiple women who felt the same way. For example, at one point Eggerichs advises men: "Be willing to take a hit from your wife. You won't die (although at times death may seem preferable)." Similarly, throughout the book he casts women as "usually the ones who are criticizers" and men as unwitting victims, at worst fools. Eggerichs tells a story about a man who buys his wife a birthday card for their anniversary and very obviously defends the husband. He even says the wife is "assassinating his character" when she suggests that he might love his car more than he loves her-a car he obsesses over in detail. I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. That guy had it coming. And, maybe I'm crazy, but a statement of fact doesn't seem like a character assassination. My other major criticism is that much of the book reads like an advertisement for itself, regularly citing letters from fans that often seem out of place. Also, the writing's not so great. Some metaphors just seem very forced (pink and blue hearing aids, deer trampling love tank air hoses.). Having said all of that, I still think a book on this topic is important. Women do need to understand how much men need respect (or submission) and men do need a reminder that their wives need love. I just think a more balanced, more skillful presentation is in order.
zcallie More than 1 year ago
I think this book is extrememly well written and gets straight to the point. If you and your husband are having some difficulties in marriage or you just want to educate yourself on marriage, please invest in this phenomenal book. I have learned so much from it and I would refer anyone to take the time to read this book. There is such a lack of knowledge this day and age in regards to marriage and what really makes a marriage work. Respect your husband and in return he will love you. Love your wife and in return she will respect you...
Guest More than 1 year ago
After sitting down numerous times to try and get through this book I give up. I love the concept and message it sends but page after page seems to be saying the same thing. I get it...respect my husband...husband-love thy wife. I thought maybe it would get better the farther I got through the book but it didn't. I'm sure the message is great at a conference, but for a full blown book it gets a little lengthy. Best part of the book is the letters sent in from various wives/husbands.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is the best book on understanding what I've been 'saying' to my wife for all these years...as well as what she's been saying to me. However, if you're a man reading this review and thinking about getting this book...be ready to get humbled. Saving your marriage is about loving your wife and being able to do that whether she respects you or not. If you're a woman reading this review and thinking about getting this book...be ready to also be humbled. Respecting your husband is about doing so even if you don't feel loved at the time. When us men and woman understand what signals we're sending to each other and how to 'decode' them...only then will WE be able to move forward in repairing a damaged marriage...or build a stronger marriage that is already pretty well off. If men read this and only see it as their wives are at fault for every thing...THEN they really didn't read the book...I'm a man and saw ME all over the problem. The same goes for women. To clarify for the women...if you feel Emerson is only pointing out that women are at fault for their marriage being in trouble...then you really didn't read the book. My parents have been married for over 47 years...spent over 30 years in full time ministry together as senior pastor/wife team...and counseled 100's of couples...they too found this book full of tools for their marriage!!!
thewhimsicalcrafter More than 1 year ago
Couldn't even finish this book. Dr. Eggerichs's theories about Love & Respect between husband and wife are completely one sided. The lovely wife is to make sure to show respect to her darling husband by transporting herself into a "Leave it to Beaver" marathon hope to God that life is always perfect otherwise she may show disrespect to her hubby. In almost every situation used in this book was how the wife was always showing disrespect to her husband resulting in his unloving behavior towards her. Interesting how the wife is made the villain. Dr. Eggerichs change the channel please. Oh wait guess that was disrespectful. Oops. Note: I was required to give a rating to provide the review. This book doesn't deserve any stars.
BB121 More than 1 year ago
Love and Respect is a personally challenging book which looks at the husband and wife relationship in a Biblical way. The concepts shared and brought to light are very different than the typical marriage/relationship books focused exclusively on Love. It will challenge the reader to consider the needs of each partner in a different, and Biblical way. We are using the book as the basis for a small group study within our church and it is creating great conversation and learnings. I highly recommend the book for anyone looking to better understand the needs of their spouse and wants to strenghen their relationship.
DICK More than 1 year ago
This is a different take on marriage relationship and from a male standpoint very easily understood and practiced. I understand from the other half that it is fairly difficult to relate and points out things that they never thought of.
KS_Chew More than 1 year ago
In Love and Respect, Emerson Eggerichs uses Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you [husband] also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33 NIV)" and dissected it to show that the love a wife longs for and the respect a husband yearns for mutually compliments each other in order to build a solid foundation of a marriage. In Chapter One, the author shared on how, as a pastor, out of his need to counsel couples, that in 1998, God gave him the insight to see the inter-connectivity between love and respect. In this chapter too, I find that the author was honest enough to share to the readers of his own hard and difficult times that he had with his wife, Sarah. The author made no attempt to hide his own weaknesses or appears as one whose marriage is perfect, without struggles. As the author said, the problem with life is that it is so daily, so routine that we may take our spouses for granted. The first seven chapters form the first part and this basically deals on the problems husbands and wives face. While it is good that the author shared many real life examples, nevertheless, I find that there are just too many testimonies and stories. And this has made the reading of this part very tedious and lengthy. Probably the author could have saved some of these testimonies to be included in an online supplementary section or in a blog or in the Love and Respect website, etc. Having too many testimonies tend to result in a loss of focus of the gist of the message. Part 2 (chapters 8 - 22) is about the energizing cycle, where the author spelled out the six aspects of the love that a husband needs to show to his wife, and the six aspects of the respect that the wife ought to give to her husband. The love that a husband should show to his wife can be defined by the acronym C-O-U-P-L-E. Whereas the respect that a wife should give to her husband can be defined by the acronym C-H-A-I-R-S. A side note: on page 156, the author said that God intended for some conflict to exist in a marriage. When my wife and I sat down together to discuss on this, we find it hard to agree with the author on this statement. While God can turn a conflict into a victory, conflict exists, rather, as a result of the Fall back in Genesis. Nonetheless, I still do find this book to be pretty useful. To me personally, the greatest value of this book lies in the concrete and specific suggestions and steps found at the back of each of the chapters dealing with "C-O-U-P-L-E" and "C-H-A-I-R-S". I find these suggestions to be very helpful, and can be easily turn into a-resolution-a-day kind of exercise. In other words, this book is actually more of a "to-do" book rather than a "to-read" book. As such, this book, should be more concise, direct to the point, focused, trimmed down, and should include more interactive features and questions for the readers to think and to reflect as they go along.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
She closes her eyes. "May they have a safe journey to StarClan."
MaopaatLuscious-Deals More than 1 year ago
Love & Respect is a wonderful read and help for couples. I was blessed to review this book and hoped that it would help me on my already rocky second marriage of 8 years. I never understood men, yet tried my best as a wife to be a help mate for my spouse. Dr. Eggerichs shares his stories and combines them with scriptural references as examples for his readers. I can see why our husbands need our res pect and I never saw things that way in our marriage. But I believe that husbands should respect their wives in order to get it back in return. It has changed the way I look at our marriage and how I'll approach things with my spouse.
kemapa More than 1 year ago
I read 10 books about marriage in 2009 and this was by far the most informative. It contains the most practical, useful,and applicable advice I have read to date. Dr. Eggerichs writes with great clarity and uses real stories very effectively to inform his readers and support his premises. I thought so well of the book that I gave one to my niece who is soon to be married. I highly recommend it for anyone experiencing conflict in their marriage or for anyone is comtemplating marriage.
scottiesellers More than 1 year ago
This is a great book about marriage. The idea behind the book is that a wife's need for unconditional love is just as important to her as as her husband's need for unconditional respect is to him. Here's the book: women want to be loved, men want to be respected. But whenever that desire is unmet, we typically respond by withholding the very thing our spouse desires most. I give 5 stars to Love & Respect.
Monte_Davenport_PhD More than 1 year ago
All married couples can benefit from reading Love and Respect. In this book, Dr. Eggerichs shares a simple but complex secret to a long and happy marriage: when a husband loves his wife, then his wife will respect him. This secret, first shared by the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5, is easier said than done because the opposite is also true: when a husband is unloving toward his wife, then she reacts in ways that her husband feels is disrespectful, then he becomes more unloving, and she becomes more disrespectful: they get into what is called the "Crazy Cycle" and round-and-round they go. Dr. Eggerichs shares practical advice for getting off the crazy cycle and starting to live life to the fullest on the "Energizing Cycle." Through everyday examples backed up by Biblical truths, Dr. Eggerichs shares that these basic needs - love and respect - can be met through self-less communication and actions by both the husband and the wife. These practical practices form two easy to remember acrostics C-O-U-P-L-E-S and C-H-A-I-R-S that can work if you do the work: Emerson shares how these self-less truths have turned bad marriages into good ones and good marriages into great ones. In part 3 of the book, "The Rewarded Cycle," Eggerichs' most important point is this: your marriage really has nothing to do with your spouse, but has everything to do with your relationship to Christ. When you look at it that way, your loving and respectful marriage also deepens your love and reverence for God, and then the rewards are innumerable! ( I am a member of Thomas Nelson's Book Review Blogger program http://brb.thomasnelson.com/).
AnthonyStephens More than 1 year ago
The principles in this book are great. The different primary needs between men and women are addressed very well by Dr. Eggerichs. I did get aggravated at times with how many times he would say the same thing over and over and over. I believe that the first seven chapters could have easily been written as one because it seems to be the same thing over and over. I did think that the COUPLES and CHAIRS suggestions for men and women in this work was good. There was a good use of Scripture (not very surprising since Dr. Eggerichs is a former pastor).
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The "Love and Respect" concept is great, very useful and helpful in marriage. However, about 75% of the book is just testimonials and encouragement. It's not that difficult a concept, and though we need to hear it and understand it, it shouldn't take nearly this many pages to do it.
JosieKramer More than 1 year ago
I have always viewed books on relationships to be a little off. They always tend to lean in one direction. But I wanted to give this one a fair shot and I went into it with a clear mind. This book revolves around the idea that women need to show respect and men need to show love. And it stops there. It left a bad taste in my mouth. I know many women that deserve respect and many men that crave love. However this isn't explored. It may have worked at some point, but men like women with a soft side, that don't just say "YES SIR" Once I realized this would be the context of the book, I moved on and accepted that each gender would be taught how to do those specific roles. Not quite the case. This book was written to essentially teach women how to respect the man. Any man that picks up this book will not be given ways on how to love a women. They will just be reinforced on the notion that they "deserve" respect. Eggerichs example on how women prefer pink and men prefer blue (while some do) seems a bit outdated to me. While, yes, you go into an office for a woman and it has light colours, and an office for a man is usually draped in dark wood, it's not like that is ALL they like. It made me laugh as I looked around my own office, then went to visit my husbands. I found the following statement in this book rather irritating as well: "this is how a woman's mind works" Really? You spoke with EVERY woman. You can't even make that statement about men, how does he think it applies to women, who are typically more complex!! I am not saying this book does not make good points. It does. But for me it was a little patronizing. And that would be fine, it is was the point of the book. But the whole point was to show BOTH sides of the issue and present them in a realistic way. A way that works with todays families. This point was missed in this book. My advice to people, stop reading these books, and actually listed and talk to your partner.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Two months before I read this book I found a business card for a divorce attorney in my husbands wallet. We were on the 'Crazy Cycle' and about to get thrown in opposite directions permanently. After putting into practice the things that I learned in Love and Respect, not only has that business card been thrown away, but our marriage is better than ever. I didn't understand why my husband acted the way he did and not the way I thought he should. The information put forth turned on lightbulbs in my head every day as I understood my husband more and more. It was as if Emmerson had lived with us prior to writing this book. Now I know when to avoid 'The Crazy Cycle' and how to jump off again. This is probably the single greatest marriage book I have ever read. It's written in a way that was understandable, and its the first book I had read that doesn't only talk about 'Love' your husband - which wasn't working for us! My husband would even listen to some sections as I would read aloud to him, and then laugh and say, 'Yep, thats you!' But he listened and also adjusted his reactions to things. Without the insights this book brought to my marriage, instead of sitting around the dinner table as a family tonight, we may have been sitting in divorce court. For that I will be forever grateful. Read this book - even if you're not having marital problems - it will help you understand your spouse in ways you have never imagined!
kimolver on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be on par with John Gray¿s Men are From Mars; Women are from Venus book. Dr. Eggerichs discusses the differences between men and women and how each needs to be more in touch with what the other one needs. When men attempt to treat their wives as they would want to be treated, they inevitably end up doing the ¿wrong¿ thing and when women attempt to love their husband as they want to be loved, they also do the ¿wrong¿ thing. If you are a Christian, you will be pleased that Dr. Eggerichs bases his book on Biblical scriptures. If you do not consider yourself a religious person, I don¿t believe the scripture verses take anything away from the message.Dr. Eggerichs mainly focuses on the woman¿s need for love and the man¿s corresponding need for respect. He says that there is a ¿Crazy Cycle¿ where when men feel disrespected, they withdraw their love from the relationship and when women feel unloved, they withdraw their respect from the relationship. In relationships where this cycle has been raging, it is difficult to find someone willing to break the cycle because he or she finds it hard to believe that if the husband is more loving toward his wife, she will respond with less criticism and more respect. Similarly, if the wife is more respectful toward her husband, he will respond with more loving behavior.Dr. Eggerichs calls this the ¿Energizing Cycle¿ and he supports it with very specific behaviors each gender must use. He says women need C-O-U-P-L-E, while husbands need C-H-A-I-R-S. Yes, these are acronyms for spelling love to the wife and respect to the husband. All of what he says appears to be in line with what I believe is true of the majority of men and women in relationships.The final section of his book is more for Christians as he describes the ¿Rewarded Cycle.¿ This is where he instructs couples that their reward for loving their wives and respecting their husbands is in heaven and a person really does it to serve God.As a highly spiritual but non-religious person, I found the book to be very helpful and I think it is a great book for both men and women who are looking for some common sense ideas about improving their relationship.
nesum on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
One of the best relationship books I've read, and the only one with the courage to tell the full truth -- love is not the whole equation, because while women generally want to be loved above all else, men typically want to be respected.The statement alone causes shock in this society, that has been taught that we only have to love each other more. We have been taught that women should love their husbands, but nag them and manipulate them to do what they want. I have heard it myself when a man asks for love, a woman will say, "You don't care that I love you?"The truth has been in the Bible the whole time. Women are instructed to respect and honor their husbands while husbands are to love their wives. Eggerichs painstakingly shows how showing a man more respect can even bring more love into a marriage.I recommend it highly to all married couples, but more than anything else, build your relationship on Christ and it will succeed.
booksandbutter on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This book is AMAZING! It changed our marriage and the way we communicate. I recommend this book to anyone who is married.
casperchris on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This is an awesome book. It's about marriage, but more than that, it's about living with our focus on God and living for Him - which many of us do, or are about to do, in the context of a marriage relationship. The book is excellent theologically but eminently practical in it's outworking of that. It is a few simple ideas about how a wife needs to be loved and a husband needs to be respected and that by unconditionally doing one the other will increase.Eggerichs' argues that most of us get stuck on the 'crazy cycle'. That's where a wife doesn't unconditionally respect her husband and/or a husband doesn't unconditionally respect his wife. The book then gives tips for husbands on how to love and wives on how to respect. As a man about to be married I really felt the things he outlined for the women about how to respect a man really hit home. This is called the 'energizing cycle'. Finally he finishes the book with the 'reward cycle' where he tells us that because of who God is we must unconditionally love or respect our spouse not because of who they are or what they've done but because of who God is, what he's done and how he tells us to live. This is a great way to finish the book. At the end their are some appendixes to help you live out the things he talks about.The book is based largely on Ephesians 5 and deals with issues of love, respect and submission and mutual submission very well and in a way that makes good sense. If Ellisa and I can live out the principles in this book as we start our married life, then I'm convinced we will be in for a great marriage centred more fully on Jesus.Anyone who is married or going to be married should read this book and I will be giving it and recommending it to all my friends and peers and youth who are thinking about or planning to or are married.
moses917 on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
I¿ve usually been weary about reading many relationship books but I recently read one that was a delightful page turner and a keeper. If you could read just one book to bless your marriage, this is it Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.I find the ideas in this book are Christian based, and also very practical. I like that the author gives real-life examples from their own marriage, that the reader can relate to and laugh about. It¿s definitely a book to get if you¿re looking to improve or save your marriage. It will give you fresh insights into the needs & wants of your mate.In reading about how this book came about I comprehended what makes this book so impacting. It was birthed from the illumination in Scripture! In 1998, Dr. Eggerichs was studying the Bible and he saw the ¿love and respect¿ principle in Ephesians 5:33 where it says, ¿Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband¿. Dr Eggerichs puts it like this ¿Without love, she (the wife) reacts without respect. Without respects, he (the husband) reacts without love. While we previously were told that love was the answers for all issues (both male and female), the inclusion of respect will help marriages to be solid and Biblically sound. This book is for both sides of the marriage.The book¿s first section deals with what Eggerichs calls, ¿The Crazy Cycle.¿ The ¿crazy cycle¿ deals primarily with communication. Simply put, men and women communicate differently. And not only do they communicate differently, they decipher and interpret differently. When a spouse makes a statement that they innocently believe conveys their true feelings, the other spouse interprets it incorrectly and then responds to that misinterpretation. Thus, the ¿crazy cycle¿ begins. But those are symptoms of the greater issue at hand: men desire to be respected and wives desire to be loved. The messages often undermine and are based these two foundational expressions.This is where Eggerichs masterfully provides extremely practical insights and advice, and he does so with the use of acronyms. The essential truth is that if you work through the acronym, you end up at a place where your wife will know that you do honor and cherish her! The book closes with some thoughts on the rewards of living the suggestions out. I¿m reminded of the importance of taking to heart what matters to God, and marriage matters to God ¿ period.
wbc3 on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This is not a great book, but the ideas in it are well worth reading for almost every married person. The basic premise is that women need love from their husbands and men need respect from their wives. Eggerichs uses Scripture and his years of counseling and conference experience to back this up. My one complaint with the book is that it really could have been adequately explained in a long (10,000 words or so) magazine article.