The divorce rate is now 60% with second marriage failures around 85%. Why? We simple cannot continue down this road for our own well being and especially for the children. One potential reason is an almost "invisible" communication gap between spouses and ex-spouses, atypical to the usual well documented male, female communication "problems." This "invisible" truth the author primarily attributed to men but to women as well when it came to truly understanding or even knowing the real "truths" of men. The "invisible" became visible when many, many men started sharing their "secrets, confusion and pain" with the author in addition to the author's own experiences, who simply couldn't find any book that dealt with these real truths. So, he wrote it.