Positive Discipline Parenting Tools: The 49 Most Effective Methods to Stop Power Struggles, Build Communication, and Raise Empowered, Capable Kids

Positive Discipline Parenting Tools: The 49 Most Effective Methods to Stop Power Struggles, Build Communication, and Raise Empowered, Capable Kids


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Do you wish there was a way to raise well-behaved children without punishment? Are you afraid the only alternative is being overly indulgent?

With Positive Discipline, an encouragement model based on both kindness and firmness, you don’t have to choose between these two extremes. Using these 49 Positive Discipline tools, honed and perfected after years of real-world research and feedback, you’ll be able to work with your children instead of against them. The goal isn’t perfection but providing you with the techniques you need to help your children develop the life and social skills you hope for them, such as respect for self and others, problem-solving ability, and self-regulation.

The tenets of Positive Discipline consistently foster mutual respect so that any child—from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager—can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline without losing his or her dignity. In this new parenting guidebook, you’ll find day-to-day exercises for parents to improve their parenting skills, along with success stories from parents worldwide who have benefited from the Positive Discipline philosophy. With training tools and personal examples from the authors, you will learn:

·         The “hidden belief” behind a child’s misbehavior, and how to respond accordingly
·         The best way to focus on solutions instead of dwelling on the negative
·         How to encourage your child without pampering or praising
·         How to teach your child to make mistakes and follow through on agreements
·         How to foster creative thinking

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781101905340
Publisher: Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale
Publication date: 11/15/2016
Series: Positive Discipline Series
Pages: 384
Sales rank: 73,548
Product dimensions: 7.30(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

JANE NELSON, Ed.D., coauthor of the bestselling Positive Discipline series, is a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist and an internationally known speaker.

MARY NELSEN TAMBORSKI, M.A., is a marriage and family therapist, a certified Positive Discipline trainer, and a parenting coach, as well as a wife and mother of three sons.

BRAD AINGE received his B.A. from Brigham Young University and is the father of three children and the CEO of Positive Discipline.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 The Basics 13

Break the Code 14

Take Time for Training 26

Kind and Firm 35

Connection Before Correction 42

Encouragement 47

Winning Cooperation 56

Chapter 2 Parental Guidance 61

Family Meetings 62

Validate Feelings 71

Decide What You Will Do 78

Follow Through 86

Letting Go 93

Chapter 3 Making Mistakes 101

Understand the Brain 102

Positive Time-Out 108

Mistakes Are Wonderful Opportunities to Learn 115

3 R's of Recovery from Mistakes 123

Chapter 4 How to Connect 129

Special Time 130

Show Faith 136

Compliments 144

Closet Listening 148

Chapter 5 Solving Problems 153

Problem Solving 154

Follow Through After Agreements 162

Ask for Help 169

Focus on Solutions 174

Wheel of Choice 179

Curiosity Questions (Motivational) 184

Avoid Pampering 192

Chapter 6 Working Through It 199

Hugs 200

Eye to Eye 206

Small Steps 211

Encouragement Versus Praise 216

Curiosity Questions (Conversational) 222

Limited Choices 229

Chapter 7 Practical Skills 235

Allowances 236

Jobs 243

Limit Screen Time 248

Routines 258

Chapter 8 Less Is More 269

Listen 270

Pay Attention 275

Act Without Words 281

Silent Signals 287

One Word 291

Chapter 9 Consequences 297

Logical Consequences 298

Natural Consequences 305

Put Kids in the Same Boat 315

Chapter 10 Model Behavior 319

Control Your Own Behavior 320

Tone of Voice 326

Don't Back-Talk Back 331

Sense of Humor 337

Empower Your Kids 342

Acknowledgments 351

Contributors 355

References 357

Index 359

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Positive Discipline Parenting Tools: The 49 Most Effective Methods to Stop Power Struggles, Build Communication, and Raise Empowered, Capable Kids 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
Reancont More than 1 year ago
Definitely from the best books I have read that can transform and enhance families' lives! Parenting can be very challenging, we use to react to misbehavior, and it takes incorporate new skills and attitudes to learn for both children and parents. By reading this book, you will clearly understand your reactions and the child behavior at a deeper level, and find solutions together. You will grasp the benefits of practicing the Positive Discipline parenting model with their basic philosophy of giving up punishment and emphasize kindness and firmness that motivates children to do better, also by teaching your children skills for life, so you can live more harmoniously and improve your relationship. This book provides 41 tools that are designed to be empowering and encouraging, to help children find belonging and significance in socially useful ways. The success stories and tooltips at the end of each tool are very illustrative, helping to better ground the information by creating a bridge between theory and the facts. The transmission of information is by an expert in the field, and you can feel the dedication and love invested in this work. Every family and child is unique, it is important to find what works for you. My gratitude to the Publisher and NetGalley for allowing me to review the book