The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

by Warren Farrell PhD, John Gray PhD

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Overview

What is the boy crisis?

It’s a crisis of education. Worldwide, boys are 50 percent less likely than girls to meet basic proficiency in reading, math, and science.

It’s a crisis of mental health. ADHD is on the rise. And as boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.

It’s a crisis of fathering. Boys are growing up with less-involved fathers and are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison.

It’s a crisis of purpose. Boys’ old sense of purpose—being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner—are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a “purpose void,” feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification.

So, what is The Boy Crisis ? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier, healthier men, and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781948836135
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
Publication date: 02/26/2019
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 368
Sales rank: 24,766
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.40(d)

About the Author

Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of books published in 17 languages. They include two award-winning international best-sellers: Why Men Are The Way They Are plus The Myth of Male Power. Warren has been chosen by the Financial Times as one of the world's top 100 thought leaders.

Dr. Farrell is currently the Chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men. He is the only man in the U.S. to have been elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW) in New York City. He started more than 300 men and women's groups, including ones joined by men from John Lennon to John Gray. Dr. Farrell has appeared repeatedly on Oprah , TODAY , and Good Morning America , and been the subject of features on 20/20, in Forbes , The Wall Street Journal , People , Parade , and The New York Times.

Dr. John Gray is the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. USA Today listed Mars/Venus as number six among the most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the number one bestselling nonfiction book of the nineties. John Gray's books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries.

Dr. Gray's more recent books include Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, Why Mars and Venus Collide , and Work With Me (with Barbara Annis). John has appeared repeatedly on Oprah , as well as on The Dr. Oz Show , TODAY , CBS This Morning , Good Morning America , etc. He has been profiled in Time , Forbes , USA Today , TV Guide , and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.

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CHAPTER 1

The Crisis of Our Sons' Mental Health

Murder and Suicide

When a boy drives down the serpentine road of mental health, feeling depressed and isolated because he feels no one who knows the real him loves him, no one needs him, and there's no hope of that changing, he may one day find a cliff and drive off. That choice may be direct, as with suicide, or it may be indirect, as in a school shooting. School shootings are homicides that are also suicides — even if the boy doesn't end his own life literally, for all practical purposes, his life is still ended.

The rate of mass shootings has tripled since 2011. We blame guns, violence in the media, violence in video games, and poor family values. Each is a plausible player. But our daughters live in the same homes, with the same access to the same guns, video games, and media, and are raised with the same family values. Our daughters are not killing. Our sons are.

The murder-suicide combination of school and other mass shootings is largely young white boys' way of driving off the cliff at the end of mental health's tortuous road. Consider three of the most notorious white male shooters: Adam Lanza (Sandy Hook), Elliott Rodgers (UC Santa Barbara), and Dylann Roof (Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston).

The National Academy of Sciences reports that the increase in suicide among white males led to as many white males' lives lost to suicide as have been lost to AIDS. (Only Native Americans commit suicide at rates similar to whites; Hispanics and Asian Americans commit suicide at about one-third the rate of whites — about the same rate as the African American population.)

African American males, by contrast, stick with murder and being murdered. Thus, while only 6 percent of the overall population, black males make up 43 percent of murder victims. More black boys between ten and twenty are killed by homicide than by the next nine leading causes of death combined.

Suicides increase as the pressures of the male role and hormones increase. Before puberty, the suicide rates among males and females are about equal. However, between ten and fourteen, boys commit suicide at almost twice the rate of girls.

Between fifteen and nineteen, boys commit suicide at four times the rate of girls; and between twenty and twenty-four, the rate of male suicide is between five and six times that of females.

The Connection Between Masculinity and Suicide

You have probably seen pictures of men in the Great Depression jumping from tall buildings, falling faster than the stock market, only to be spread out on the sidewalk below, lost to their world and loved ones. Worth less, men considered themselves worthless. Thus, at the height of the Depression, 154 men committed suicide for each 100 women.

Yet by 2015, in good economic times, boys and men were committing suicide three and a half times more often than women.

Is this because females are inherently better at handling stress? Perhaps not. When men and women are exposed to similar pressures to perform, as among men and women in the military, the female suicide rate soars almost as high as the male rate. But men, like Brad, are prone to doing it differently.

In 2016 Brad returned from his third tour of duty in Afghanistan with a reasonable amount of economic security. But he felt like a stranger to both his wife and himself, and quickly alienated his children with his temper. His PTSD and the tension at home left him feeling like a burden. One day, after losing his temper again, Brad bought his wife her favorite flowers and their children the newest PlayStation, gave his wife and kids especially long and loving hugs and kisses, and took out the older of the family cars. He said he was going shopping; instead, he sped quickly down a curved road and "skidded" off a cliff.

Looking back, Brad's widow "knew" he had committed suicide

— "After he'd 'lose it' he'd always say he was worth more as an insurance policy than a husband and dad." But because he had faked it as a car accident so the family could get the insurance, he wasn't counted as a suicide.

Since both young and old men are often more motivated to commit suicide when they feel their loved ones will benefit more from their money than themselves, they have a need to cover it up so that insurance will pay. So although more veterans commit suicide each year than were killed in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, even that staggering number is probably a vast underestimation of the true suicide rate of male veterans, as well as older men, who are also, as we'll see in part V, more prone to feel they are worth more to their family dead.

The Incarceration Nation Versus the Prevention Nation

There is probably no better evidence of the increase of the boy crisis as a mental health problem than the fact that the US jail and prison population increased by more than 700 percent between 1973 and 2013. Of that population, 93 percent are male and are disproportionately young. 700% Increase in Prison Population (93% Male), 1972–2013

The American Psychological Association (APA) calls the United States "incarceration nation." Why? We are 5 percent of the world's population with almost 25 percent of the world's prisoners. The APA estimates half of those prisoners have mental health problems.

We often allow that the disproportionate percentage of young black men in prison may reflect our racism, but rarely contemplate whether, since the other half of "black men" is "men," that it may also reflect our sexism. Might the 700 percent increase in the 93 percent male prison population in the last half century mean that the way we our raising our sons in the last half century is leading to a deterioration in their mental health? Addressing that question would be preventive. To date, our prison debate has focused on rehabilitation versus incarceration, rather than prevention versus imprisonment. And just as this hurts African Americans more than any other race, it hurts our young men more than our young women.

Less Boy Crisis, Less Budget Crisis: Mental Health Pays the Taxes

Can we afford to focus on preventing imprisonment? We can't Afford not to. Prison spending has increased at five times the rate of spending per grade school student. Even in progressive California, twenty-three new prisons have been built for every one new college since 1980.

In addition to the immeasurable grief and self-blame among family and friends, suicide has an estimated economic cost to the United States of $44 billion a year. And suicide is only the tip of the mental health iceberg. For childhood mental disorders alone — predominantly affecting our sons — the United States now spends a quarter trillion dollars annually.

We pay taxes to rebuild what mentally unhealthy boys destroy. Prevention cultivates mentally healthy sons who pay taxes. The less our boy crisis, the less our budget crisis. Investing in turning our "incarceration nation" into a prevention nation will cost us less — in every way.

CHAPTER 2

The Crisis of Our Sons' Physical Health

Being male is now the single largest demographic factor for early death.

— Randolph Nesse, Director of the Center for Evolution and Medicine at Arizona State University

In Nesse's summary assessment of a study of premature deaths in twenty countries, in which he found that "being male is now the single largest demographic factor for early death," the word "now" is important. It is only now that boys and men under fifty are twice as likely to die as girls and women the same age. That is a greater life-expectancy gap than at any time since World War II.

Your son's increased vulnerability can also be detected in the change in his sperm count. Boys today have sperm counts less than half of what their grandfathers had at the same age. And the problem is getting worse. The average sperm count in the United States continues to drop 1.5 percent every year.

"May You Live Until 120" ... or Not

When Jews traditionally wish for others to live to 120 (inspired by the Torah, in which Moses was said to live to 120), their wish includes their sons. But your son's reality makes that much less likely for him than for your daughter.

Our sons, husbands, and fathers die at a younger age from fourteen out of fifteen leading causes of death.

The disease that gives your son a predictably shorter life is the outcome. Our expectations for him as a male contribute to the cause.

The "Death Professions": Your Son's "Glass Cellar"

Every day, 150 workers die from hazardous working conditions. And 92 percent of them are male.

The less formal education and more children your son has, the more likely he is to feel he'll help his family live a better life by risking his own life working in what might be called "the death professions."

Why? To receive the "death professions bonus." Jobs like crab fishing in Alaska (think Deadliest Catch), working on an oil rig, in a coal mine, as a lumberjack, long-distance driver of a semi (or eighteen wheeler), as a welder a hundred feet above a bridge, as a cab driver at night in an inner city, as a pilot of a small plane dropping pesticides, as a roofer, or a construction worker — they all pay more money than safer, similarly low-education jobs. In exchange for this "death professions bonus," millions of dads with less education risk their lives to give their children options they don't have. And tens of thousands of single young men try to save up enough to make themselves attractive as a future dad.

Most of us take for granted how the home we live in was created at the risk of the lives of young men. For example, the wood in your home likely began its journey with young lumberjacks risking their lives as loggers. The trees they felled were then hauled by long-distance truckers (another hazardous profession) to a site near to what would become your home. On their way, the truckers repeatedly stopped for fuel extracted by other men who had risked their lives on oil rigs (as in Deepwater Horizon). And the wood was ultimately used by construction workers and roofers — who, in the United States, die at the rate of one per working hour.

A friend of mine was a firefighter. He and his wife, both Mormon, had eight children. One day, when my friend was in his early fifties, his wife, in tears, called to tell me he had died of lung cancer from the chemical-laden fumes he had ingested over the years. Few parents realize, as they proudly watch their son don a firefighter's uniform, that in hazardous professions, death after the job takes twelve times as many of our sons' lives as death on the job. Hazardous occupations on the job are merely the smoke; occupation-remnant diseases — such as black lung disease among miners — are the fire.

In aggregate, these jobs might be thought of as "glass cellar" jobs — all-male, because it is almost exclusively our sons who are willing to risk death so their family will have a better life.

"Bigorexia" and Obesity

While your daughter may suffer from anorexia or bulimia, your son is more prone to respond to the pressures he feels with bigorexia or obesity.

Jonathan was a freshman when his older brother, a junior, was making a name for himself as their high school's lead wrestler. After his brother introduced him to a teammate, his brother casually revealed that the teammate had later laughed that he and his brother were like the two guys in the movie Twins — his brother like the Arnold Schwarznegger character, and him more like Danny DeVito.

The reference haunted Jonathan. He knew he couldn't bridge the height gap, but he set out to make sure no one ever saw him as the short weakling again. He began lifting weights, ultimately working out obsessively and taking massive quantities of supplements. Proud of his progress, but still feeling unable to match his brother, he began taking steroids. He was soon abusing them.

Jonathan suffered from bigorexia, the body dysmorphia that occurs when a young man like Jonathan continues working on his physical strength, often temporarily magnifying it with steroids, in the hope that it will fill the black hole of his psychic wound. Just as the cultural ideal of thinness blinds many friends and parents of anorexic girls to their suffering and need for help, so our respect for male muscle blinded Jonathan's friends and parents to his suffering and need for help.

And bigorexia has further complications: if your son is preoccupied with body image, he is also more vulnerable to binge-drinking and overuse of drugs.

While Jonathan's psychological struggle was marked by muscle mass and motivation, the struggle of Jonathan's friend Austin was marked more by fat mass and lack of motivation. When Jonathan's motivation stepped up, Austin couldn't keep up and just gave up. Taking refuge in video games and eating, for Austin the presence of online friends couldn't compensate for his feelings of exclusion by real-life friends, and led to obesity and depression.

While the rate of obesity among adolescent girls has stabilized, the rate for our sons is increasing. Aside from their physical health, this damages both our sons' psychological security, and our nation's global security: a third of young men are not fit for military service owing to obesity and other physical and mental problems. And this problem extends to other professions on which our security depends: 70 percent of firefighters and 80 percent of police officers are also obese or over-weight. The US has the highest rate of overweight males among all major countries.

Whether through bigorexia or choosing the death professions, our sons, like our daughters, are often responding to what they feel will give them more approval and respect. For example, in the same way that many guys are attracted to quasi-anorexic girls, so many of our daughters find themselves attracted to firefighters, marines in dress uniform, football players in padded uniforms, and winners in other sports that put our sons' lives at risk.

CHAPTER 3

The Crisis of Our Sons' Economic Health

The challenge for your son's grandpa was grandpa's job going nowhere; the challenge for your son is his job going elsewhere. Your son is more likely to seek a job in a sector that is being increasingly outsourced overseas — as with computer technology and manufacturing, as well as online jobs. Your daughter is more likely to hold jobs in stable sectors that are more recession proof, like health and education, both of which are 75 percent women.

Half the 6.5 million US jobs lost since the 2009 recession were in manufacturing and construction. In contrast, personal care and home health aides are projected to be the fastest-growing occupations, and women are predicted to fill the majority of these new jobs.

In addition to outsourcing, something else has changed since grandpa's day. If grandpa wasn't educated, he probably supported his family with his muscle. But your son will enter an economy that has made a transition from muscle to mental — or from muscle to microchip. For example, many of the nation's approximately 1.7 million truck drivers are predicted to be largely replaced by trucks that drive themselves, such as those currently being tested by Uber-owned Otto.

The implications for your son? Over the last forty years, the median annual earnings of a boy with just a high school diploma dropped 26 percent. Without that diploma, his chance of being unemployed during his prime working years (twenty-five to fifty-four) is 20 percent, almost 400 percent greater than the average.

If your son plans to live in an urban area, he'll likely live in one of the 147 US cities in which young women under thirty haven't just caught up to their male peers, but now outearn them (by an average of 8 percent). In only three cities do young men earn as much or more. And single women are now buying their own homes at two and a half times the rate of single men.

If your son is heterosexual, these transitions lead to a bigger problem, one which may be tough to hear. But I promised you I would be straightforward so that our solutions can be built on your son's real vulnerabilities.

Every Kiss Begins with Kay ... Still

You've heard the ad for Kay Jewelers, "Every kiss begins with Kay." Translation: a diamond for a kiss. Or, every kiss begins with pay.

Is this still true today? Yes. On a survey on splitting the bill on a first date, 72 percent of women responded that the man should pay the full bill. Moreover, 82 percent of the men agreed.

If your son and a woman who wants children take a liking to each other and make a mutual decision to have dinner, he may fear that if he asks for "equal pay for equal pleasure" when it comes to paying the check, he increases his likelihood of being rejected as a cheapskate. The message he hears is "no money, no honey."

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Table of Contents

Introduction

  • My Personal Journey into The Boy Crisis

PART I: Is There Really a Boy Crisis?

1 The Crisis of Our Sons’ Mental Health

2 The Crisis of Our Sons’ Physical Health

3 The Crisis of Our Sons’ Economic Health

4 The Crisis of Our Sons’ Education

5 The Crisis of Our Sons Worldwide

6 Why Are We So Blind to the Boy Crisis?

PART II: Why the Boy Crisis Isn’t Your Fault

7 The Boy Crisis: A Problem Created by a Solution

PART III: The Purpose Void

8 The Path-to-Purpose Generation Gap

  • The Power of Purpose
    • “I never thought you cared enough to ask.”


  • Your Son’s Unconscious Wisdom
  • Can a “Real Man” Transition from Provider–Protector to Nurturer–Connector?

9 The “Hero Paradox”: Value Yourself by Not Valuing Yourself

  • A Hero with a Thousand Faces
  • The Sirens of Social Bribes
    • Social bribes: Mom, men, the media, the military


  • The Catch-22 of Your Son-as-Hero

10 Why Do More Marriages Fail in Countries That Succeed?

  • The father’s catch-22
  • The Era of the Multi-Option Mom and the No-Option Dad
  • How Did Our Daughters Avoid the Purpose Void?
  • “Sorry, It’s a Boy”

11 How Raising Our Sons Successfully in the Past Differs from Raising Our Sons Successfully for Their Future

  • Making Money Versus Making a Difference
  • How to Guide Different Boys Toward Different Senses of Purpose
  • Our Sons’ New Sense of Purpose: The Hero’s Journey to Emotional Intelligence
  • Son-Dropping

12 Raising a Balanced Son in an Out-of-Balance World

  • What Happened to Pick-Up Team Sports?
  • Helping Your Son Find His “Edge”
  • Filling Your Son’s Purpose Void: Your Son as Hero

PART IV: Dad-Deprived Boys vs. Dad-Enriched Boys

13 Dad-Deprived Boys

  • Boys Who Hurt, Hurt Us
    • The Lost Boys: Mass shooters
    • ISIS: A gang of dad-deprived boys?


  • Bio Dad: The Discovery of the Dad Brain
  • Careers Are for Now; Children Are Forever
  • The Absence of Dad Creates the Presence of Government

14 Why Are Dads So Important?

  • Let Me Count the Ways

15 Rediscovering Dad

  • The Generation of the Dad Rich Versus the Dad Poor
  • When Does Dad Begin to Matter?
  • Stepdad or Bio Dad: Does it Make a Difference?

16 What Dads Do Differently

  • Boundary Enforcement (Versus Boundary Setting)
  • Exploring Nature, Taking Risks
  • Roughhousing: Dad as a Rough, Tough Cream Puff
  • “Teachable Moments”: A Little Pain for a Lot of Gain
  • Challenging the Kids’ Limits
  • Hangout Time
  • Teasing: Emotional Intelligence Training, Dad-Style?
  • The Conditional or Hierarchical Dad
  • The Worrier and the Warrior: The Checks and Balances of Parenting

17 In the Case of Divorce . . . The Four “Must-Dos”

18 The Father Warrior: Why Fathering Will Be a New Male Sense of Purpose

  • com: The Father Warrior Meets the Have-It-All Woman
  • If Men Get Paid More, Is It Realistic for a Dad to Be the Primary Parent?

19 DAD : D iscrimination A gainst D ads

  • “It Doesn’t Feel Right When I See Them Together”
  • Moms Have the Right to Children, Dads Have to Fight for Children
  • How Did Father Knows Best Become Father Knows Less ?
  • Guiding Your Son to “Make a Difference”

20 The Best Parent is Both Parents, But. . .

  • The Best “Parent” is an Attitude Shift
    • Fighting in front of the kids
    • No one asked why the men were drinking
    • Cheap fun for dad and son
    • Dad-inspiring movies


  • When the Best “Parent” Cannot Be Both Parents
    • The Cub Scouts and character
    • Mentoring and rite-of-passage programs
    • Grandfather time
    • When the biological father is missing, can God the Father help?



21 From “Cultural Shrug” to Cultural Shift

  • Kill Today, Love Tomorrow: The Military Dad Dilemma
  • From Father’s Dime to Father’s Time
  • The Government: As Problem, as Solution
    • Creating a White House Council on Boys and Men


  • Our Dads, Our Sons, Our Guns

22 Creating Dad-Enriched Families

PART V: Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence

23 Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence

  • Biologically, Girls Just Live Longer, Right?
  • Social Bribes: Hollywood—Heroic Health Versus Mental and Physical Health
    • Does the new heroine mean your son won’t have to risk his life for her love?


  • Health Intelligence Inventory
  • Boys’ Weakness as Their Facade of Strength
  • Your Son’s Body, Not His Choice
    • “First and ten, concussion again!”
    • My son wants to join the military. Is this good news or bad news?


  • Your Son’s Body, Your Son’s Choice: Resisting the Sirens of Social Bribes

24 Emotional Intelligence and Mental Health

  • The Barriers to a Boy’s Emotional Intelligence
  • Behind Your Son’s Mask
    • “I’m fine . . . Just leave me alone.”
    • Helping your son take risks in life without risking his life


  • How Heroic Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence Play Out in Everyday Life
    • Moving to better neighborhoods helps girls and hurts boys
    • The bully and the bullied
    • Helping both the bully and the bullied


  • Eighteen Steps Toward Integrating Emotional and Physical Health Intelligence into Heroic Intelligence

25 Reversing Depression, Preventing Suicide

  • Causes of Suicide
    • Women cry, men die
    • If no human doing, no human being
    • Suicide is contagious


  • Diagnosing Danger: The Warren Farrell Male Depression/Suicide Inventory (WFMDI)
  • Preventing Suicide

26 Hidden Hazards to Your Son’s Health

  • The “Sperm Crisis”: To Be, or Not to Be
  • Drinking and Drugs
  • The Unholy Trinity: Obesity, Diabetes, and Erectile Dysfunction

27 From Hurt People Hurting People to Healed People Healing People

  • Refilling the Empathy Void
  • Couples’ Communication: Your Children’s Best Inheritance

PART VI: ADHD: Treatment With or Without Medication

28 The New Neural Crisis

  • A New Spin on ADHD

29 The Four Faces of ADHD

30 The Many Causes of ADHD

  • Addressing the Cause to Heal the Brain

31 Natural Solutions to Restore Dopamine Function

32 Natural Supplements for Better Brain Performance

Conclusion

  • Your Mission: Guiding Your Son to Discover His Mission
  • Extending Gender Liberation to Dads
  • From Cultural Shrug to Cultural Mission: A Gender Liberation Movement

Appendix A: Family Dinner Night: The Five Essentials

Appendix B: The Boy Crisis List: The Benefits of Dad, the Dangers of Dad Deprivation

Bibliography

Acknowledgments

About the Authors

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

The Boy Crisis brilliantly explores the challenges facing our sons—and everyone. The sections on ADHD, the role of mothering and fathering, and developing boys’ health intelligence are priceless and life-changing.”

—Suzanne Somers

“Drs. Farrell and Gray frighten and enlighten us in their brilliant analysis, insights, wisdom, and practical solutions to The Boy Crisis . . . essential reading for every parent, teacher, and policy-maker.”

—Philip Zimbardo, PhD, former president of the American Psychological Association and Stanford University professor

“It would be impossible to read this book and not become a better parent, teacher, or thought leader.”

—Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times bestselling author

“What The Feminine Mystique did for girls and women, The Boy Crisis does for boys and men. An eloquently written, compelling tour de force, The Boy Crisis presents a long overdue vision of boys’ self-worth, sense of purpose, and idea of heroism that will leave our boys happier, healthier, and better prepared to sustain love.”

—Dr. Richard A. Warshak, author of Divorce Poison

“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”

—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike

“Arresting, alarming, and impeccably researched, The Boy Crisis is a must-read for every parent, educator, and policymaker who cares about the future of boys and girls.”

—Michael G. Thompson, PhD, New York Times bestselling coauthor of Raising Cain

The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America.”

—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men

“Original, thoughtful, and filled with gems of practical wisdom to understand and support the future of boys.”

—Jack Canfield, coauthor of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul® series

“As an activist in the women’s movement, I’m proud of expanding life choices for our daughters. But no one did the same for our sons—until now. Dr. Warren Farrell shines his searchlight on the ‘boy problem with no name’ in this totally absorbing, astonishing, and masterful book. Best of all, he offers parents and educators straightforward solutions with a heart full of compassion.”

Gail Sheehy, author of Passages and Understanding Men’s Passages

The Boy Crisis is the most important book of the 21st century. . . . If you care about the very survival of humankind, you must read this book.”

Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome

“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and the future of our country.”

Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike

The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America by one of the most thoughtful writers of our time. As the wife of a dad-deprived man, and the mother of a dad-enriched son, I can personally vouch for its deep significance.”

—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men

" The Boy Crisis will deepen your awareness and help you guide your son through the many dilemmas and ordeals that attend the journey from boyhood to manhood. Profoundly helpful."

—Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly and Prodigal Father, Wayward Son

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The stories and research in this book all point to a crisis that touches everyone. Yes, all of us. I hope we can come together in society, both women and men, and move towards the solutions outlined in The Boy Crisis. It is time to help our boys to grow up and become emotionally intelligent men. Excellent book!
KDanilson More than 1 year ago
Healed a Deep Wound with my Daughter The Boy Crisis does a great job of describing what the boy crisis is, and how it has become one of the greatest hidden secrets of our time. It explains that this is a crisis of Education, Mental Health, Fathering, and a lack of Purpose. Most importantly, the book enabled me to heel years of deep sadness and hurt. Written about the boy crisis, it is just as relevant to a girl crisis. As a father who saw his teenage daughter grow up fatherless due to divorce, I am so very grateful for Warren’s immense amount of research and reference to numerous studies that helped me to understand the causes and the impact of children losing a parent. If you are a fatherless child or a parent of a fatherless child, be prepared to feel sadness, anger, and even shed some tears, but don’t stop reading. By the end, it is possible that you can heal a wound that has affected your entire life. This book is priceless. I believe that if it were available during my marriage, I would have my daughter in my life today. I agree with Jed Diamond's endorsement, “….the most important book of the 21st century.”