The Drama Years: Real Girls Talk About Surviving Middle School - Bullies, Brands, Body Image, and More

The Drama Years: Real Girls Talk About Surviving Middle School - Bullies, Brands, Body Image, and More

by Haley Kilpatrick, Whitney Joiner


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Today’s middle school girls have it rough.

In a few short years, they go through an incredible number of biological and emotional changes, making this the most formative—and riskiest—time in their lives. Groups turn on each other, a trusted childhood friend can reveal secrets by sending a text message or updating a Facebook status, and deciding where to sit in the cafeteria can be a daily struggle. As any tween will tell you, life for a middle school girl can be summed up in one word: drama.

Haley Kilpatrick’s own turbulent middle school experience inspired Girl Talk, a nonprofit organization in which high school mentors offer a “just been there” perspective to tween girls, helping them build self-esteem and develop leadership skills. Here, Haley delivers the definitive guidebook, packed with anecdotes from real girls around the country, who offer their insight into why her friends’ approval is suddenly vitally important, why she feels pressured to be perfect, why she’s no longer telling her parents everything, and what three vital things adults can offer to the girls in their lives to downplay the drama.

Filled with practical strategies from tweens and teen mentors to help adults understand what girls today are facing, The Drama Years is a must-read for anyone struggling to help girls navigate the often difficult transition into adolescence.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781451627916
Publisher: Free Press
Publication date: 04/03/2012
Edition description: Original
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 449,627
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)
Age Range: 10 - 13 Years

About the Author

Haley Kilpatrick started Girl Talk, a program to help middle school girls deal with the pressures and anxieties of being a young teen. Haley graduated from Kennesaw State University with her BS in communication. She travels the country speaking and motivating youth, teachers, and administrators on the importance of mentoring.

Whitney Joiner is a former features editor at Seventeen and has contributed to a number of newspapers and magazines, including Teen Vogue, Glamour, Redbook, The New York Times, Time, and more.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

1 Staying True to Her: Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness, and Self-Respect 15

2 I'm So Stressed!: Handling Everyday Anxiety 37

3 Who Has What: Name Brands, Materialism, and Competition 61

4 Her Body, Herself: Body Image, Weight, and the Pressure to Be Pretty 89

5 BFF's, Frenemies, and Mean Girls: What It Means to Be a Friend 121

6 "It's Not Just Cooties Anymore": Love and Relationships 157

7 Dealing with You: Getting Along with Parents 183

8 It's Not Fair!: Boundaries and Consequences 209

9 Getting Serious: When the Drama Is Very Real 233

Afterword 253

Sources 255

Resources 257

Acknowledgments 265

Index 269

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The Drama Years: How to Help Girls Thrive During Middle School and Beyond 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 44 reviews.
mcox7811 More than 1 year ago
The Drama Years is an excellent book looking into the many issues our middle school girls face today. As a middle school teacher, I see these problems throughout my entire school on a daily basis. Not only are the problems the girls are facing destructive to forming and keeping positive relationships, the drama is negatively impacting their personal education and is consuming instructional time. The Drama Years speaks about the new technology such as texting and facebook and how these are also adding to the already difficult years. Fortunately, this book does not only focus on the hardships of middle school, but offers a solution through "Girl Talk". The three goals Kilpatrick has outlined in the book and through her program are effective in helping young teens face the drama years. I am a strong believer in my students having an older mentor, being involved in an activity, and giving a helping hand. As a middle school teacher, older cousin, and mentor I am ecstatic to get a chapter of Girl Talk in my school and community as well as share this book with teachers and friends. This is a must read for anyone who interacts with middle school girls! -- Meredith Cox, Middle School Teacher, M.Ed. Vanderbilt University, Behaviorist
Hammering More than 1 year ago
I am the father of a sixth grade girl just starting into these years and needed some extra guidance on this subject. I must say that Haley provides not only the answers to the questions I had; but also covers areas that I had not thought about myself. The book is a must read for anyone who has a daughter dealing with these sometimes difficult times in her life. I thoroughly enjoyed the authors real life experiences and could not put the book down; finding it fascinating to heart " dead on" what she is currently going through in her life. Loved it !!!!! 5 Stars !!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A M A Z I N G ! I have just finished this book and would highly recommend it to ALL teachers, counselors, students, friends, moms, dads, ETC. My heart is so full of compassion I can't even begin to find the right words. I am a mom and this book really made me stop and think about some things these young girls have mentioned and that my daughter delt with during her middle school years. You've heard the old saying "Out of the mouth of Babes" well, read this book and you will know exactly what I'm talking about. Just think about it we send our children to school and from daycare to at least 5th grade everything is repeated to them done for them at home and school in some way or another and they do well. THEN comes middle school WATCHOUT these girls are dealing not only with learning a new way of process in their school but now their bodies are changing, their personalities are changing, some days they do not like themselves let alone anyone else. Then you add in the DRAMA with it, WOW, need I say more. As a parent we like everyone else, get caught up in our on circle then added to the circle is this young girl not knowing which direction to turn that is why when I read this book and going through the 3 steps : An Anchor Activity-outside school activity that she can throw herself into A Helping Hand-an ongoing commitment to volunteer at an organization that she feels passionate about and An adopted older sister a stable role model that she can trust and confide in. It made me realize what I could have done better and in a different way with my daughter. Believe me you will not regret making this purchase in fact you just may do what I have done and paid it forward to someone else in hopes it will help them in some way. Think about it it will be the best money you have ever spent!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I am stuck. Me and my friend got in a fight and to get me back she worte my name and a guys name forever on a table. I am freaked. I like him and I told her. He saw what was written. Now, I am afraid to even look at him. Need help a.s.a.p. Thanks, I need it. Also, if you see this and have advice please write it. I only have one week because I go back to school next Monday So, please help me. I need it!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great advice and a must read for all who have a teenage girl in their life!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I feel that this book covers everything needed to know about tipical tweens and their middle school life
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can help just go to 102 days at middle school Mid school helper
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm going into middle school!!! Does anyone have advice?! Let me know soon!!! Please!!!! Does this book help? That is all that I'm wondering. I'll just rate 5 stars then.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Hey im Nichole. And i have been in middle school for going on three years now but the trick is to try to be friends with everyone. Be yourself. Have fun. And make sure that you pick a social group that fits you. Those friends that you make are most likely going to be there for u in high school. I no that it seems so far away but u only have three years there then u go to middle school. And if you are going in to sixth grade or by now you most likely are already in school then try to be friends with the eightth and seventh graders so u will have so high skool friends when u get there. You will be in my prayers. Hope u have fun in middle school. And be cool, stay in school.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Its going to be ok im going into middle school and i freaking out aswel cunsidering i start school on monday but im flipping out bounceing off the walls crazy scared but i learn from all my friwnds say its ok ill be here but for you its going to ok you could ask your friends for anything you should trust them ok well need more reply to #Lolsmileyface
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
... i am like freaking out i need advice books if you have any books or advice please rite them in your review
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Middle school is a living hell and i hate it but this book takes from bulies to boys and it helped me so much i feel more powerful
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you like or love boys or if u are a boy than girls than you are fine just to let you know girls make yourself hard to get toward boys when you are older boys will apresheate you more but you dont have to make yourself hard to get i mean i dont make myself hard to get
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great book for every girl and woman to read. Amazing how those formative years can dictate how you'll see yourself in the future. Inspiring! A book you want to share with others for sure. Thanks Haley Kilpatrick for this!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think it should have headings to organize it better .
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Talking about it i have in my life twenty-four-seven at my scool and at home to:) it is not easy girls and boys
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im in 7 grade. Shee has dated everyone shes mean and ugly thanks. Saidy bolya
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Middle school sucks... Im in high school now and realizing how bad middle school was horrible. Girls are way more mean in middle schoothan in high schooll
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Father of a tween girl, the author writes the story showing compassion for our young women. This is the best book i have readin a long time. Dad's read for yourself and your daughter. I wish we had girl talk in our town. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im so sorry for my crappy typeing i was in a hurry sorry
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I havnt read this book yet but from some of the reviews idk if i should im popular and have had many biyfriends so im not worried im starting 8th grade and i was on the cheer team last year and im goina try again this year
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