The Girl's Guide: Getting the hang of your whole complicated, unpredictable, impossibly amazing life

The Girl's Guide: Getting the hang of your whole complicated, unpredictable, impossibly amazing life

by Melissa Kirsch

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A colossal cheat sheet for your post-college years, answering all the needs of the modern woman—from mastering money to placating overly anxious parents, from social media etiquette to the pleasure and pain of dating (and why it’s not a cliché to love yourself first).

A perfect combination of tried-and-true advice and been-there tips, it’s a one-stop resource that includes how to clean up your digital reputation, info on finding an apartment you can afford and actually want to live in, and why you should exercise the delicate art of defriending. Plus the fundamentals, from health (mental and physical) to spirituality to ethics to fashion, all delivered in Melissa Kirsch’s fresh, personal, funny voice—as if your best friend were giving you the best and smartest advice in the world. 

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780761180128
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date: 04/07/2015
Edition description: Second Edition
Pages: 464
Sales rank: 301,087
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

MELISSA KIRSCH has written for New York magazine, National Geographic Traveler, Nerve, and Good Housekeeping, and has been consulted as an expert for Glamour, Jezebel, and Cosmopolitan. She is an editor in New York City. 

Table of Contents

Introduction xiii

1 Health and Body Image

Living Inside a Real Body

Stress: The Root of Most Evil

An Exercise Regimen You Can Stick With

Why You've Got to Get Enough Sleep

Eat This Up: A Healthy Diet That's a Cinch

When Bad Habits Get the Best of You

Things Suck and They're Not Getting Better

Seeking Timely Medical Care

HMOs, POS Plans, and That Viper COBRA

2 Careers and Work

What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?

Résumés and Cover Letters

Networking: Wiring Your Connections

Ace Every Interview Every Time

Graduate School: Now or Never?

Internships: Golden Ticket or Slave Labor?

Temping Without Contempt

Being an Assistant Before You're the Boss

Talking to the Boss

Email Etiquette: Your Job on the Line

When Good Jobs Go Dreadfully Awry

Follow Your Heart

3 Money and Finance

Your Money and Your Life

The Id and Superego of Spending

Girl Walks Into a Bank

The Simplest Retirement Plan Explanation Ever

Credit Cards: The Gateway Drug?

Sallie Mae's No Poor Farm Girl in a Gingham Pinafore

Bankruptcy: The Land of the Lost

A Beginner's Guide to Investing

You're Special, but on April 15, We're All Equal

Neither a Borrower nor a Lender Be

Special Section 2 Two Gargantuan Purchases: Car and Home 163

4 Etiquette It's Not About the Fork 175

Everyday Dos and Don'ts

Restaurants and Bars Done Classy

How to Host a Kick-Ass Gathering

The Houseguest: A Blessing and a Curse

Weddings: The Stuff They Forgot to Tell You

Contact in an Increasingly Barbaric World

How to Be Social

Old-Fashioned but Still Fashionable

The Fine Line Between Dignified and Dictatorial

5 The Company You Keep 211

Being There

What Kind of Friend Are You?

Your Ever-Changing Friend Lineup

Where Are All My New Friends?

Friends in Different Income Brackets

Traveling with Friends

Who Left Her Dirty Underwear on the Sofa?

Letting Friends Change

Catfight Club

Balancing Friendship and Courtship

Defriending: A Delicate Enterprise

The Chosen Family

6 Dating, Sex, and Romance 243

Loving Yourself First: Corny but Necessary

What the Best Dates Have in Common

Text and Date without Going Bananas

The Drunken Hookup

You Con Text First

The Messy Intersection of Dating and Social Media

Let's Talk about Sex

Birth Control and STDs

Casual Sex

In It for the Long Term

Relationship Timelines

How to Have a Love Affair

Breaking Up Without Going to Pieces

7 Getting Along with Your Family 295

Seeing Your Parents as Real People

Making Your Siblings Your Allies

Home for the Holidays

Why Can't We Share a Bed? Partner, Meet Family

Should Your Parents Be Your BFFs?

Moving Home Doesn't Make You a Loser

Accepting Money from Your Parents

The Good Daughter

Family Full Circle

8 Spirituality

Spirituality: Defining the Indefinable

"There Are Hundreds of Ways to Kneel and Kiss the Ground"

Spirituality and Ethics

Your Social Conscience

When Things Fall Apart

Do a Tech Fast

It's All Process

9 Home EC for Modern Times

How to Find a Place to Live

How to Keep House

Hassle-Free Laundry

Tailoring for Those Who Hate It

Cooking for One

Handywoman Special

Creepy, Crawly Roommates

One Last Thing

10 Fashion Sense for Any Era

Foundation Items

Figuring Out What Looks Best on You

Designer Names for Less

Closet Overhaul: What to Dump

Bras, Panties, and the Dreaded "Body Shaper"

Hygiene and Maintenance

Hair You (Might) Wish Wasn't there

How to Get a Haircut You Don't Hate

After a Fashion: Parting Words

In Closing …

Appendices 415

Acknowledgments 427

Resources 429

Index 437

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